Recently, I’ve encountered a variety of opinions online regarding how some women disapprove of their partners visiting strip clubs, arguing it’s disrespectful and that men should be held to higher standards. But honestly, why should it matter? If your partner chooses to visit a strip club or supports someone on OnlyFans, does it really affect you?
Clearly, for some, it does. But I don’t want to dictate what anyone should or shouldn’t accept in their relationships; that’s a personal decision. As a woman in a long-term, committed relationship, I’m completely fine with my husband going to strip clubs or exploring OnlyFans content.
Let’s face it: who hasn’t browsed adult content online? (I’m including erotic stories in that mix.) My husband has visited strip clubs during bachelor parties, and while I had my reservations at the time — I mean, who willingly throws their money at such things? — I ultimately knew he’d return to me. I was more concerned about our finances than what he was doing there.
Trust is Key
Sure, it’s not always just about trust. If you have personal boundaries, that’s totally valid. It’s crucial to understand your limits and communicate what you will or won’t tolerate. When it comes to anything sexual or intimate, enthusiastic consent is vital. If you’re uncomfortable with your partner participating in these activities, and they disregard your feelings, that can certainly break trust.
However, if your worries are rooted in insecurity, you might be facing larger issues in your relationship. The problem isn’t merely about strip clubs; if someone is inclined to cheat, they’ll do so regardless of whether you allow them to visit such places. Preventing them from going to a strip club won’t stop them from accessing adult content online.
Also, what about me?
Another reason I’m supportive of my husband’s choices is that I want the same freedom for myself. It would be hypocritical to deny him access to nudity while indulging in it myself. Women enjoy visual stimuli too — it’s an outdated belief that we don’t. I also enjoy reading explicit fiction. How is that any different? Just remember, sex workers are selling a fantasy, and we’re drawn to it because it’s appealing and exciting.
It Doesn’t Necessarily Mean Disrespect
I read an article where the author expressed feeling disrespected and argued that men should not partake in such activities. While I understand that perspective, we shouldn’t label men’s enjoyment of strip clubs as inherently disrespectful. If we truly wanted to elevate standards for everyone, we’d focus more on ensuring that sex workers are treated fairly — like providing living wages and healthcare.
That said, consent is crucial. How you feel about your partner engaging with sex work is entirely valid. But let’s not confuse the act of paying for such services with a lack of respect.
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In summary, I believe that individuals should have the freedom to explore adult entertainment without it being equated to disrespect. Communication and trust are essential in any relationship, and everyone should feel comfortable discussing their boundaries and desires openly.