I vividly recall my 10th-grade civics class, where we were diving into the topic of abortion during the spring semester. Seated in the front row, I was consumed by rage as the majority of my classmates—mostly boys—expressed pro-choice views. I couldn’t understand how our country could tolerate such an act, dismissing it as the irresponsible decision of women who should face consequences for their actions.
Fast forward ten months, and there I was in the waiting area of an abortion clinic—humbled and filled with uncertainty.
As a self-identifying conservative, my beliefs were shaped by my upbringing in the Bible Belt, where religious values dictated a strict moral code. My faith in God and adherence to the Bible had always guided my views. Diverging from these norms felt risky; it was essential to avoid the judgment of those around me.
However, my perspective began to shift during the summer as I watched the Democratic National Convention. The speeches resonated with me, but it was Ilyse Hogue, the president of NARAL Pro-Choice America, who truly left a lasting impact. Her words struck a chord, and I couldn’t help but reflect on my own dreams of family—dreams that felt far out of reach at 16.
I faced the reality of an unplanned pregnancy, knowing I was set to graduate high school and had aspirations for college. The thought of raising a child at my age felt overwhelming, not just for me, but for both families involved. I wanted the chance to carve out my own life first. In hindsight, I wish I had spoken to my mom about contraception, but my embarrassment held me back. Fortunately, when I found myself in need, she was there for me, providing unwavering support.
Hogue’s speech instilled a sense of hope in me. It reminded me that women do not have to navigate their choices alone, especially when those choices are so deeply personal and often stigmatized. The reality is that one in three women will have an abortion by age 45, yet the topic remains shrouded in silence and shame.
Every December 2nd, I reflect on my decision and how it shaped my life. Had I not made that choice, my life would be dramatically different. I wouldn’t have the joy of my son or the opportunity to be a surrogate. I often wonder what would happen if abortion were banned—women would be forced to carry pregnancies to term, regardless of their circumstances, leading to emotional and financial burdens that no one should have to bear.
Consider the staggering statistics: a child enters the foster care system every two minutes, and in 2014, there were over 100,000 children waiting to be adopted. If women were compelled to give birth, these numbers would undoubtedly rise. Additionally, forcing mothers to deliver babies with terminal conditions is a heartbreaking dilemma that no family should face.
I’m tired of concealing my experiences because of my faith or my political affiliation. My views have evolved significantly, influenced by a speech that lasted just over four minutes. For the first time, I embrace my pro-choice stance without shame.
Hillary’s nomination is merely the beginning of breaking barriers. With her support, we can amplify voices like Hogue’s and advocate for the right to make choices about our bodies. I refuse to carry the weight of fear, shame, or embarrassment any longer—it’s time to ensure that future generations are not deprived of their choices.
That’s why I stand with her.
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Summary:
This article reflects on a personal journey from being a staunchly pro-life individual to embracing a pro-choice perspective. It discusses the societal pressures surrounding abortion, the importance of choice for women, and the potential consequences of a ban on abortion. Through personal anecdotes and statistics, it advocates for open conversations about reproductive rights and highlights the need for supportive resources for women facing difficult decisions.