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Many people label themselves as allies, believing that simply being open-minded and accepting of LGBTQIA+ individuals is enough. While it’s commendable to not actively hate queer people or to wear rainbow gear during Pride, true allyship goes beyond just saying “Love Is Love.” LGBTQIA+ rights encompass much more than same-sex marriage or refusing to serve gay couples. To be an ally means to fully embrace and support every aspect of sexuality, gender identity, and expression, even when it makes you uncomfortable. Unfortunately, some individuals who consider themselves allies often add conditions, such as “buts” and “what abouts,” to their support, which allows them to sidestep discomfort or avoid confronting their biases.
Being a genuine ally requires sacrifices—whether it’s choosing not to patronize a favorite fast-food restaurant or distancing yourself from friends or organizations that are not supportive of the LGBTQIA+ community. It means walking away from a church that does not accept queer individuals. True allyship is about unlearning biases instead of merely avoiding them. It’s time to stop minimizing the experiences of queer people by prioritizing intent over impact.
Embracing All Facets of the Queer Community
To foster acceptance and unconditional support, it’s essential to embrace all facets of the queer community. You cannot ask queer individuals to tone down their gender expression. You cannot dismiss queer youth by labeling their identities as phases or claiming they’re too young to know who they are. You can’t turn away from aspects of the community that challenge your beliefs, whether those beliefs are rooted in gender stereotypes, religion, or misconceptions about science.
Being an ally means placing the experiences of queer individuals at the forefront, without playing devil’s advocate or shying away from the biases that hinder your growth. It often requires stepping outside your comfort zone—something queer individuals do not have the option to choose in a heteronormative society. True allyship can sometimes be confrontational and difficult, and it is your responsibility as someone eager to be recognized as an ally to make necessary changes. The burden of your image is not on the queer community. We deserve unconditional support, and if you cannot provide that, then you are not an ally.
Engaging in Hard Conversations
We shouldn’t have to wait for you to feel ready to confront your biases or challenge what you’ve been taught. We need you to engage in the hard conversations and actively dismantle preconceived notions. Phrases like “love the sinner, hate the sin” when discussing queer people in a religious context are not examples of allyship. Allowing discussions that center around “what about my beliefs” when those beliefs undermine the rights and experiences of LGBTQIA+ individuals is not supportive. Saying you love gay people but are uncomfortable with public displays of affection is not allyship. Similarly, expressing solidarity with #translivesmatter while refusing to acknowledge gender-neutral pronouns is not true support.
The Reality of Being an Ally
As a queer nonbinary person raising children—one of whom is transgender—in a country that can be unsafe for LGBTQIA+ families, I shouldn’t feel fortunate just because I reside in a state without anti-trans legislation. Those in areas where such bills threaten the safety of transgender kids shouldn’t have to relocate for security; every place should be safe for LGBTQIA+ individuals. We understand that this change does not happen on its own. We advocate for allies to join us in these struggles, but we need that support to be unconditional. There is no room for excuses or caveats. While queer individuals fight for their rights and lives, allies cannot prioritize their comfort over the urgency of the situation.
It’s undeniable that homophobic and transphobic individuals will always exist. These bigoted beliefs may never be altered. However, I believe many can be educated and guided toward acceptance through exposure to queer individuals and our narratives. This is where allies play a crucial role. You can serve as a protective barrier for those who need help understanding or accepting queer identities.
The Role of Privilege
This may seem like a heavy responsibility for cisgender heterosexual allies, but your privilege in a heteronormative world allows you to engage in this work without the same risks that queer individuals face when advocating for ourselves. The queer community is multifaceted, far beyond the stereotypical portrayals often seen in mainstream media. Queerness exists beyond binary gender categories, and not all transgender individuals desire to conform to cisgender norms. Gender expression is diverse and should not be constrained by societal expectations.
Religion and queerness can coexist in affirming and safe ways. It is up to allies to ensure that these truths are upheld in every aspect of their lives so that queer people can navigate inclusive spaces—be it at home, work, healthcare settings, or places of worship—without supporting cisgender heterosexual privilege.
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Conclusion
In summary, if you want to be an authentic ally to the LGBTQIA+ community, leave the excuses behind and offer your unwavering support. Embrace the complexities of the queer experience without hesitation, challenge your own biases, and be prepared to stand firm in your allyship.