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I Would Be Lost Without My Mom Bestie
She supports me through all the significant life changes with her maternal insight.
by Jamie Carter
May 24, 2022
It’s 8:53 AM, and I’ve just dropped my daughter off at preschool. I secure the baby in her seat, buckle her up, and wait. Exactly eight minutes later, one of us makes the call. My best friend, who has just finished dropping off her daughter, is also in her car. Time for our morning catch-up.
What follows is a delightful exchange filled with light chatter and heartfelt unloading. Not much has happened since we last connected – probably just the morning before, but maybe a few texts from the previous afternoon or evening. Sometimes I even drive past my street because this morning therapy is too valuable to end early. My bestie and I share stories, solve dilemmas, and make observations. We get each other on a profound level, a raw, genuine understanding that feels like a lifeline. Without her, I honestly think I would struggle to keep it together.
She’s by my side for the major life events, offering invaluable maternal empathy. Through miscarriages, COVID pregnancies, and ADHD diagnoses, she lends a supportive ear. Even during a poison control scare, she’s my first call. Confusing mammogram results, unexpected ultrasound findings, relocations, and career shifts — she’s always there with compassion and understanding. Never condescending and rarely argumentative, she provides steadfast encouragement. Because we share similar worries and values in motherhood, she offers the kind of support that’s essential during the more challenging aspects of being a mom.
She also shows up for the smaller stuff. Decisions about preschool, patio furniture, and dinner choices. Family squabbles, toddler meltdowns, and imperfect teacher meetings — she always has a relatable story, often one-upping my chaos for a laugh, ensuring I never feel alone. She knows just how to distract me with sarcastic texts or links to stylish shoes. Her advice feels relevant because she knows me so well, and our similar parenting styles and goals create a bond that’s quick and lasting.
Most of our chats revolve around the fluff of life, but it’s the fluff that’s absolutely necessary. We swing from discussing breakfast to afternoon plans to Barbie accessories. We race to cover as much ground as we can, aware that our morning call might be cut short at any moment by a tantrum or urgent need. Often, it ends with a hasty “gotta go!” — no need for closure or explanation, just a mutual understanding that we’ll pick up where we left off next time.
Occasionally, we manage to align our schedules for some face-to-face time. With seven kids between us, it’s no small feat, and it usually means some of them are with us. We navigate our conversations through the chaos like seasoned pros, and when one of our little ones inevitably cries, we always make sure to blame our own kids first. It’s the ultimate sign of true friendship.
Above all, we offer each other the rare and precious gift of being completely seen and understood in a very uncomplicated way. I wish all moms could experience this — a vital relationship outside of their family that complements both motherhood and marriage. A friendship filled with knowing nods, eye rolls, guilt-free cancellations, and judgment-free rants. A straightforward, dependable support system. No need for outfit changes before meeting, no forced smiles on tough days — just the beautifully messy reality that defines true friendship. I simply can’t imagine my journey through motherhood without her.
Jamie Carter is a former attorney and mother of four who loves to chat. She resides in Beverly, Massachusetts.
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In summary, having a mom bestie who understands the ups and downs of motherhood is vital. From sharing heartfelt moments to navigating everyday chaos, these friendships provide the support and laughter needed to thrive as a parent.