Several years ago, I found myself at a V-Day event in the suburbs of Chicago. For those unfamiliar, V-Day is a global movement aimed at ending violence against women, featuring various speakers and activities each Valentine’s Day.
On that evening, a young woman recited an excerpt from Eve Ensler’s The Vagina Monologues, starting with the line: “You cannot love a vagina if you do not love hair.” The monologue detailed her discomfort when her husband demanded she remove all her pubic hair, even revealing that he cheated on her because she refused to comply with all his sexual preferences.
At the time, I didn’t dwell much on the “love hair” message, mainly relieved that I hadn’t brought my preteen daughter along. However, the essence of that line lingered in my mind, especially the concluding sentiment: “You have to love hair in order to love the vagina. You can’t pick the parts you want.”
Brazilian Waxes: A Trend I Don’t Understand
This brings me to the topic of Brazilian waxes. I first learned about them through celebrity Jessica Harper, who claimed that such a wax had transformed her life. Curious, I researched what a Brazilian wax entailed, and was immediately skeptical, thinking it was just another one of Jessica’s eccentricities. But to my surprise, Brazilian waxes are quite popular, and I honestly don’t understand the appeal.
It’s not merely the thought of having hair yanked from my sensitive areas that deters me, although that does sound painful. I’ve given birth to three children without any pain relief, so I know I can endure physical discomfort. No, what truly unsettles me is the end result.
Why would any adult woman prefer to have her vulva resemble that of a child? That’s the immediate impression I get when considering the complete removal of hair. I know some people opt for a “landing strip,” but I’m referring to the full Brazilian wax, where every last hair is stripped away.
I’m not advocating for a completely natural approach, either — a bit of grooming is reasonable. But I believe in moderation. The thought of having no hair feels unsettling to me.
Societal Influences and Personal Choices
Furthermore, I stumbled across an insightful article in The Atlantic that discussed this trend and pointed out that my discomfort likely stems from my age. At 41, I find this hairless look primarily popular among those under 30, particularly college students, and largely influenced by the adult film industry.
As if the overwhelming presence of pornography in today’s society isn’t enough of a concern, now we’re inspired to remove all hair so that we look like prepubescent girls with adult bodies? It’s quite disturbing.
There are several other reasons I shy away from the idea of a full Brazilian wax. First, I’m frugal. I refuse to pay $50 to $100 for that kind of discomfort when I could spend it on something like a massage. Second, I have zero interest in allowing a stranger, who is not my doctor, to be that close to my intimate area. Who would even want to perform such a job? It’s hard to fathom someone choosing to yank pubic hair for a living.
Lastly, discussions surrounding this trend often omit the notion of men getting rid of their pubic hair. While it might be a trend in certain circles, it’s certainly not as prevalent as it is for women. Why is there this expectation for women to undergo such drastic alterations to their bodies?
Finding Comfort in Personal Choices
Everyone has their comfort level, of course. To me, there’s a significant difference between a bikini wax, where you still have some coverage, and a Brazilian wax, which feels far too invasive. Furthermore, there’s a clear distinction between simply grooming and complete removal. If you choose this route, it should be because it feels right for you, not because you believe it will make you more appealing or cleaner for your partner.
One positive aspect of aging is the freedom from feeling pressured to conform to such trends. You do what feels best for you, but I’ll stick with my sexually mature anatomy, thank you very much.
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Conclusion
In summary, I find the trend of complete hair removal unsettling and unnecessary. Every individual should feel empowered to make choices about their bodies based on comfort rather than societal pressures. Embrace what feels right for you, and remember, maturity comes with the wisdom of self-acceptance.