I was chatting in a group text about how running errands like going to the grocery store or Target on my own feels like “me” time, and I genuinely enjoy it. Another mom mentioned that her nightly baths serve as her personal escape, something she eagerly anticipates daily.
Then, a friend jumped in, expressing her disbelief that these small moments could really be considered “me” time. “Showering and shopping alone don’t count! Those are just things we have to do! When did we start finding joy in strolling through a store by ourselves?” Well, for me, it started once I had children. After a few exhausting trips with all three kids in tow, I quickly realized that my peace of mind and clarity vanished when they were around. Shopping alone has become a luxury; I can take my time, grab a Diet Coke, follow my list, and leave feeling recharged.
For moms, these fleeting moments are often all we get. I want to be present for my three children—I want to drop them off at school, be home with them, and attend every game. But that doesn’t mean I don’t need my own time. I’m perfectly okay with having less of it because I made this choice.
Many moms share this experience—we juggle work and parenting constantly. Those little “me” moments are what sustain us through our days, weeks, and lives. There have been times when a solo trip to the store for something as simple as new sheets has revitalized me and made me a better mom when I return home.
The spontaneous weekend getaways, last-minute dinners with friends, or casual trips to the mall on a Tuesday afternoon are long gone. During those times, grocery shopping wasn’t nearly as cherished or calming.
Sure, I still dream about luxurious vacations and spa days. I would love a massage while someone tidies my home. However, such experiences are rare for me and many other moms I know.
So yes, those small “me” moments—when we can enjoy errands alone—are what fuel us to endure the next stretch of motherhood. Finding time for self-care as a mom is nearly impossible, especially for single moms like myself. I don’t mind if others find it sad that I find joy in moments like sipping coffee in the parking lot, alone. This is our reality, and it’s often all we can manage.
Motherhood has taught me many lessons, including cherishing the little things—like silence, shopping for new decor, enjoying lunch solo, or having the chance to pamper myself without interruptions. Just last night, I painted my nails without a single knock at the door. Today, I plan to grab a coffee and have my car washed. While I sip my drink and watch the soap suds cascade down my car, I’ll take a moment to breathe and ground myself. Because while being a mom is a constant commitment, carving out “me” time is essential, and I know there will be plenty of years ahead when my kids are grown to indulge in vacations and massages whenever I please.
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In summary, small moments of solitude are crucial for mothers and can significantly impact our well-being. Embracing these fleeting opportunities for self-care can make a world of difference in our ability to nurture and support our families.