Navigating motherhood while raising Black children as a white parent has illuminated how much our society prioritizes white parenting experiences. Almost three years ago, when I suspected my biracial one-year-old daughter had chicken pox, I thought it prudent to consult Google. However, searches for terms like “Chicken Pox,” “Chicken Pox in babies,” and even “Chicken Pox on dark skin” yielded predominantly images of white children with the recognizable rash. Parents of Black and Brown children understand that skin conditions can manifest very differently on darker skin compared to lighter skin.
In my quest for answers, Google’s limitations became apparent, particularly its bias towards white experiences. Instead, I reached out to two friends: one white mother with biracial children and a Black mother whose son shares a similar heritage to my daughter. Both confirmed my concerns about the chicken pox, with one friend even sharing a photo of her son’s rash, which looked strikingly similar to my daughter’s. Earlier, a white pharmacist dismissed my worries, claiming the rash resembled an allergic reaction, whereas a Black doctor later confirmed it was indeed chicken pox.
This experience is just one of many where I’ve sought support as a mother, only to find that the realities of raising Black children are often overlooked. For instance, during my six-week postpartum check-up, a doctor mistakenly thought a blue-grey birthmark on my son’s tailbone was a bruise. These birthmarks, often referred to as “Mongolian Blue Spots,” are more prevalent in babies of African and Asian descent, highlighting yet another gap in medical understanding rooted in a system that frequently marginalizes non-white experiences.
Such oversights can have serious implications, especially if a doctor misidentifies a condition, which might prompt unnecessary safeguarding concerns. The ability of a healthcare provider to recognize health issues as they manifest on different skin tones is crucial. If a doctor can’t identify issues based on appearance, can we trust their assessments in other areas, like heart or lung health?
While I began with chicken pox, the issue extends far beyond that. I worry that our healthcare system may be systematically denying my children access to quality care, not solely because of their skin color, but due to an ingrained bias against it. I also find it challenging to share these experiences with white mothers. For example, one mother once told me she understood my pain when her red-headed child was called “ginger,” attempting to empathize despite the stark differences in our experiences.
These narratives may resonate with many Black and Brown parents, but they also need to reach white parents who benefit from systems that often exclude others. It’s essential to stop centering white experiences in parenting discussions. These anecdotes only scratch the surface of a larger issue of racism. My priority remains to keep my children afloat in a world that often tries to pull them under.
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Summary:
This article discusses the author’s experiences as a white mother raising Black children, particularly highlighting the challenges faced when seeking medical advice and support. The narrative underscores the systemic biases in healthcare and parenting resources, advocating for a broader understanding that includes diverse experiences.