Yesterday, I underwent a sterilization procedure. The irony wasn’t lost on me that the last time I found myself in a hospital bed was during the birth of my second child.
At almost 42, I have two children who sometimes feel like a dozen. When my youngest was born, we all agreed that our family was complete.
Yet, as I was wheeled into the operating room, an overwhelming wave of sadness washed over me, and I found myself sobbing.
There was a man behind me, likely the anesthesiologist, who asked if I was okay, though I didn’t see his face. I managed a half-hearted laugh through my tears. “I can’t believe this is happening. I’m getting sterilized. It’s just so overwhelming.”
The nurse beside me nodded, but the anesthesiologist sounded puzzled when he replied, “But isn’t this what you want?”
If only life choices were as straightforward as feeling fulfilled with every significant decision! I don’t think I answered before they connected me to the IV, and I didn’t regain consciousness until a few hours later.
Now, I’m lying in bed with a sore abdomen and profound fatigue, but I’m thankful the surgery went well. I know I made the right choice, just as I knew years ago that we were done expanding our family. This experience has reminded me that even the most pivotal decisions can come with tears. Certainty can coexist with grief, and it’s perfectly reasonable to mourn the closure of my childbearing years.
It marks the end of a significant chapter. My little ones are growing into young men, and I will never carry another baby again. Listening to them argue and shout outside my bedroom, I think, “Thank goodness!” But it’s also deeply bittersweet.
What comes next? Soccer games, friendships, school, and eventually (yikes) preteens. Perhaps grandkids will be part of my future, or perhaps not.
Everyone discusses the desire to have kids, but few talk about the moment you realize it’s time to stop. As I transition into this new phase of life, I can only say it’s incredibly bittersweet.
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In summary, while I was certain that my family was complete, the experience of undergoing sterilization brought forth unexpected feelings of grief. It’s a poignant reminder that life’s major choices can evoke complex emotions, and it’s entirely natural to mourn the end of an era.