Recently, while browsing through my favorite Howard University Alumni page, I stumbled upon a post discussing Meghan McCain’s sudden outrage about the state of maternity leave in our country and her newfound realization that it needs reform. Without delving into my thoughts on her perspective (let’s just say I rolled my eyes at her use of “luxury” in relation to maternity leave), I felt compelled to share my own postnatal journeys as a mother of five to illustrate how drastically different maternity leave can be, even for the same woman across different pregnancies.
Pregnancy 1
Age: 21
Marital Status: Single
Occupation: Full-time college student and temp worker
Time off after birth: Four weeks
When my first son was born, I was eager to return to work as soon as possible. I had just signed a lease for a small basement apartment, as my dorm was no place for a baby, and my job didn’t offer paid time off. I informed them of my four-week leave, and promptly returned to work. I attempted to continue breastfeeding, but the stress of juggling work and college drained my supply. While I was grateful for WIC, once I stopped breastfeeding, I found my benefits only covered formula. I didn’t qualify for SNAP, leaving me to creatively navigate meals on many days.
Pregnancy 2
Age: 27
Marital Status: Married
Occupation: Full-time legal secretary
Time off after birth: Six weeks
By the time my second child arrived, I was happily married with a stable job that provided paid short-term disability. Six weeks off felt like a great deal, although I could have taken more time if my PTO had allowed for it.
Pregnancy 3
Age: 28
Marital Status: Married
Occupation: Full-time legal secretary
Time off after birth: Three months
Yes, I had two children in quick succession! This time, I was strategic and saved all my sick and vacation days, often spending my first trimester in the office bathroom, relying on my now-close work friend for moral support while I dealt with morning sickness. I appreciated the time off, but the effort it took to secure it made my pregnancy quite uncomfortable.
Pregnancy 4
Age: 34
Marital Status: Engaged
Occupation: Stay-at-home mom
Time off after birth: One year and one month
When my daughter arrived, I felt fortunate to have the chance to take a break. My fiancé relocated us to Nashville, and for the first time since I was 21, I wasn’t fully employed. I cherished the year off, which allowed me to focus on self-care and be present for my kids’ school activities.
Pregnancy 5
Age: 39
Marital Status: Married
Occupation: Owner of a Virtual Executive Assistant business
Time off after birth: Unconventional
Surprise! I had another baby. After being unexpectedly laid off, I returned to legal secretarial work, only to discover I was pregnant a week later. Due to pregnancy-induced hypertension, I was placed on a restricted work schedule and ultimately lost that job. However, I managed to secure a big client as a Virtual Assistant on the same day. I kept my pregnancy hidden from clients, worried they wouldn’t want to hire a high-risk assistant. I initially planned to take two weeks off, gradually ramping up my client load. Life, however, had other plans, and I delivered six weeks early, all while tying up loose ends for work. Thankfully, my clients were understanding, allowing me to take the necessary time off.
It’s clear that whether you’re a struggling college student, a dedicated employee, or a successful business owner, women in the U.S. face significant challenges regarding maternity leave. When Meghan spoke about the “luxury” of taking time off after a difficult birthing experience, I couldn’t help but shake my head. While it is indeed a luxury to spend time with a newborn, it’s disheartening that it often takes a personal experience for individuals to recognize how many others lack this privilege.
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- Maternity leave policies in the US
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In summary, my experiences with maternity leave have varied greatly, reflecting the challenges and inequities mothers face in the U.S. from one pregnancy to the next.