In the wake of the pandemic, the Internet has undeniably bridged gaps, allowing people to connect globally. However, there’s an underlying issue that we may only be beginning to understand.
Having spent years at The Center for Internet and Technology Addiction, I’ve witnessed firsthand the profound effects that excessive screen time can have on developing minds. Yet, during the pandemic, despite the wealth of research detailing the dangers of video game and Internet addiction, I found myself allowing my preteen sons to indulge in gaming without restriction.
The young male clients who enter our clinic often game for up to sixteen hours daily, leading to academic failures and an inability to maintain jobs. Their relationships with family and friends suffer significantly, and these addictions often lead to severe financial consequences for themselves and their loved ones.
Beyond the clinical signs of addiction, I observe a deep sadness in these individuals—a slumped posture, averted gazes, and an overwhelming sense of hopelessness. For skeptics who dismiss Internet addiction as a myth, the brain reacts similarly, whether it’s through substance use or gaming. The release of dopamine creates a euphoric sensation, making kids crave more, whether from gaming, social media, or browsing the web.
As a single parent of three, juggling work, grad school, an internship, and trying to maintain a social life, it’s hard not to overlook the long-term impacts of screen time. Like many parents, I’ve felt compelled to bend the rules. With kids at home almost constantly, how could I manage work while they incessantly asked for snacks or complained of boredom? I resorted to giving them gummy snacks (not the best for dental health) and screen time, all while trying to suppress images of addicted individuals who refuse to leave their rooms, relying on their parents to deliver meals.
During quarantine, screen time was unavoidable. Not only did children attend online classes, but their social interactions involved FaceTiming friends while playing video games or binge-watching other kids on platforms like YouTube. Experts even encouraged flexibility, suggesting that parents should allow more screen time to cope during these challenging times.
Now, don’t misunderstand me—Internet use among children doesn’t have to be detrimental. Fortunately, most kids won’t fall into addiction, but they may engage in excessive use. It’s essential to ensure they maintain a healthy balance of activities. If your child shows no adverse effects, like irritability when screen time is limited or declining academic performance, they may just need to be more mindful of their usage.
During quarantine, I noticed my kids becoming increasingly sedentary, and I often found myself negotiating with them to play outside—sometimes offering extra screen time in exchange for outdoor play, which I don’t feel guilty about. The pressing question now is how to manage their screen time as we transition back to normal life. What does “normal” even mean in today’s context?
Screens have become vital for communication and work, especially throughout the pandemic. However, the allure of gaming or online content often overshadows traditional outdoor activities, depriving kids of the creative outlet that boredom can provide. I fondly remember gazing out the window for hours, which sparked my creativity; today’s children, however, often escape into their screens instead of embracing boredom.
As we collectively recognize that we might have been providing too much access to screens for our children, it’s time to reassess their role in our lives. I often find myself breaking up disputes over computer time and urging my kids to enjoy the outside world, dealing with tantrums when I impose limits on screen time.
I observe my youngest son, who appears lost and unsure of what to do beyond his screens. It’s concerning, especially when I see the stark contrast with his brother, who can readily engage in non-digital activities. I know I must set boundaries now before the issues escalate.
Recently, we discussed how their brains have been overwhelmed by screens, and I’ve implemented some family rules for better balance: a maximum of two hours of screen time per day, one daily movement activity (like dance parties or walks), and mandatory outdoor fun (which I sometimes have to time). I’m also fostering interests beyond screens: my daughter reads Harry Potter to her brothers, my middle child has extended his reading time, and my youngest is considering creating a comic.
These adjustments are small but vital as we strive for balance: the boys engaging with Legos, my daughter drawing, and moments where they excitedly suggest going outside to play. Mindful Internet use is achievable for both them and me, and I understand that it’s acceptable to allow extra screen time when necessary for my own peace of mind.
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In summary
As we navigate the complexities of modern parenting amid the digital age, it’s crucial to strike a balance between screen time and other enriching activities. By setting boundaries and encouraging creativity, we can help our children develop healthier habits around technology usage.