I’m always eager to explore the newest tools for enhancing photos. Personally, I enjoy applying filters and experimenting with effects like blurring. However, it’s crucial to remember that photo editing should enhance the image, not erase the aspects of ourselves we cherish.
Recently, while searching for a new desktop photo editing tool, I stumbled upon several options. As an amateur in photography and editing, I was amazed at the range of features they offered. One particular tool featured a weight loss option, and I was taken aback. “Is this for real?” I thought. I never believed such a tool could actually make someone look like they lost weight in a photo—it seemed almost magical.
Prior to finding this tool, I never imagined I would consider using something like it. I’ve always maintained a healthy level of self-esteem. Yet, this tool forced me to confront some insecurities that emerged after having children, reminding me of my pre-baby body.
While editing a picture for a business page, I decided to try this feature. I slid the weight loss bar to the right by 50%, and instantly, my face and body appeared slimmer. My once-full cheeks and soft midsection transformed back to the lean figure I remembered from before motherhood. The temptation to keep those alterations was strong.
In reality, I work hard to balance breastfeeding and exercising, and I still find it challenging to shape my body the way I envision it. This tool made it so simple to change my appearance; with a mere click, I was back to my “ideal” weight. In that moment, I felt more beautiful as a digitally altered version of myself than I did in reality.
Just then, my partner walked into the room. I excitedly explained the tool to him and exclaimed, “Look how much skinnier I am now!” His response was a puzzled, “So… you’re photoshopping yourself? Why?”
His confusion made me realize the ridiculousness of altering my weight in a photo. I had expected him to be impressed, but instead, he appeared almost disheartened. That moment snapped me back to reality.
I quickly replied, “I look thinner… but that’s not really me. I guess I shouldn’t use it. Yeah, definitely not.”
“You’re already beautiful,” he reassured me, and his words reminded me of the importance of embracing my true self. I wish I could have come to that realization on my own, appreciating my body as it is.
It astonishes me how easily I was drawn to this so-called magic weight loss tool in hopes of reverting to my pre-baby form. I wouldn’t trade my body or my life for anything. This body has experienced sports, ocean swims, music creation, pregnancy, childbirth, and nurturing. It has explored, tested limits, and climbed mountains. My body tells my unique and beautiful story, with all its scars, imperfections, and softness.
Looking back, it seems absurd that I momentarily let a photo editing tool challenge my self-beliefs. While a quick fix to achieve my ideal appearance might be tempting, I now realize that every stage of my life represents my ideal self. My body today looks different than it did two years ago, and that’s okay. I’ve been using my body to nourish my children, which naturally changes things.
In truth, “skinny” isn’t a realistic goal to pursue. Healthy is the aspiration. It’s essential to eat well and exercise, but healthy bodies come in all shapes and sizes and don’t always equate to “skinny.” Everyone has their own narrative, and every body is beautiful in its unique way. Scars, wrinkles, and softness should be celebrated as milestones of our journeys. As Brandi Carlile sings in her song “The Story,” “All of these lines across my face tell you the story of who I am.”
It saddens me that no photo is safe from alteration; there’s always the temptation to modify images to present a false self. I’ve seen celebrities express their frustration over unauthorized image alterations, and it’s commendable that they speak out against these practices. I almost willingly altered my own photo, and I understand how easy it is to accept that as normal. It truly takes courage to show up as your authentic self.
My hope is for a world where beauty isn’t standardized—that each person’s unique traits contribute to their own beauty. The marks on your body are a testament to your life’s journey. They reflect where you’ve been and who you’ve become. Embrace them; they are part of your story.
If you find yourself tempted to hide behind a fabricated image or to showcase your true self, I implore you to choose authenticity. The real you is far more fascinating and beautiful than any software or filter could create.
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