As a mother, I’ve noticed a troubling trend among parents that leaves me feeling not just uncomfortable, but frustrated. Many moms wear their supposed open-mindedness like a badge, believing they are progressive. However, they might be missing the mark entirely.
The concept of colorblindness—claiming not to see race—actually perpetuates racism rather than countering it.
A couple of years ago, while waiting for my daughter’s preschool class to end, I overheard a little boy bursting with excitement as he exclaimed, “Mom! There are brown kids in my class! Three brown kids!” His mother quickly hushed him, glancing around anxiously to ensure no one heard his innocent observation. The boy was left bewildered, not understanding why his mom didn’t share in his excitement.
Later that year, after a Christmas Eve service, my family dined at a nearly empty restaurant. A young girl, around five years old, wandered over to our table, curious about my two-year-old and the newborn in my arms. “Hi,” she said, and I knew she was about to ask a question. “Are those your kids?” she inquired.
“Yes,” I replied, noticing her parents’ shock as they finally realized their daughter was at our table. I could tell she wanted to ask more, but wasn’t sure how to articulate her curiosity. Instead of encouraging her, her parents just sat there, silent. So, I explained, “My kids are adopted. Do you know what that means?”
She listened intently as I elaborated on how my children came from another mother who couldn’t care for them, and how we now take care of them. When she asked whether they see their other mothers, I replied affirmatively, emphasizing the importance of those relationships.
This little girl’s genuine curiosity highlighted a crucial point: children have an innate desire for understanding and truth. Parents who choose to silence or dismiss their kids’ questions about race or differences are doing them a disservice. Ignoring these conversations fosters distrust and confusion, rather than healthy dialogue.
If you find yourself in a situation where your child notices a family that looks different or asks about race, take a moment. Instead of avoiding the topic, engage in an honest discussion. Acknowledge differences and help them appreciate the beauty of diversity.
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In summary, fostering a healthy understanding of race in children requires open dialogue and honesty. Rather than shushing their curiosity, embrace it, as it paves the way for acceptance and understanding.