Reflect on a moment when you felt truly proud of yourself. Perhaps you received a promotion, aced an exam, or delivered a speech that garnered enthusiastic feedback. Visualize the setting and activities surrounding that moment, allowing yourself to relive the emotions you experienced.
Now, consider your current state of mind. If you’re feeling on top of the world, perhaps after a life-changing event like winning the lottery, that’s fantastic! However, many of us may feel less than stellar—maybe a bit tired, unmotivated, or just not at our best.
A Fresh Start
Rarely do we stay in that elevated state of feeling good about ourselves. We often rely on extraordinary events, like a long-awaited promotion or unexpected praise, to uplift our spirits. But what if we could cultivate that positive feeling more frequently?
Geoffrey Adams, a psychology expert from Stanford University, posits that the effects of feeling validated are more significant than we realize. His research on self-affirmation theory suggests that we all possess a fundamental need to see ourselves as good individuals. Even minor threats to this belief can trigger defensive reactions.
This can hinder our ability to face challenges constructively. For example, a student who receives a disappointing test score might shy away from future assessments, while someone confronted with challenging evidence against their beliefs may dismiss it. This defensiveness limits our opportunities for growth and learning.
The Power of Positivity
Conversely, when we feel good about ourselves, we become less susceptible to perceived threats, opening up a wealth of advantages. Various studies led by Cohen and his colleagues demonstrated that short “self-affirmation” exercises yield remarkable results, such as:
- Enhancing high school students’ academic performance.
- Increasing openness to constructive health feedback.
- Lowering stress responses during challenging situations.
- Assisting individuals in achieving weight loss goals.
- Fostering feelings of love and connection in relationships.
Interestingly, these affirmations appear to have lasting effects. Feeling positive about oneself can create a self-reinforcing cycle: students who feel good about their abilities tend to perform better, further boosting their self-esteem.
Unlocking Your Happiness
How can you harness this for yourself? Research indicates that writing about personal values can be particularly impactful. Here’s a straightforward approach:
- Set aside time to list your core values. Consider what principles guide your life and the person you aspire to be. Values might include nurturing relationships, curiosity, kindness, rationality, ambition, and diligence.
- Choose one or two key values, and spend a few moments reflecting on (a) why they matter to you and (b) a specific instance when you felt you embodied those values.
Additionally, cultivate habits that bolster your self-esteem regularly. Schedule activities that uplift you or surround yourself with friends who make you feel appreciated. You can also team up with someone close to you, exchanging affirmations about what you value in each other—this mutual recognition can be incredibly rewarding.
Avoid letting your self-esteem hinge on external factors such as promotions or others’ feedback. Instead, invest time in understanding what you truly cherish and define your worth by your own metrics. Revisit that uplifting feeling you once experienced, and strive to evoke it frequently.
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Summary
In summary, fostering a consistent positive self-image is achievable through self-affirmation and understanding personal values. By actively engaging in practices that nurture self-esteem, you can create a lasting sense of well-being independent of external validation.