During one of my numerous viewings of The Nutcracker, I had an epiphany: Fritz could easily be my child! My fondness for this timeless ballet runs deep—the enchanting music, exquisite choreography, and stunning costumes have captivated me from childhood. I’ve been fortunate to witness live performances on multiple occasions, thanks to my father, who introduced me to it as a child and continued to take me even in college. I insisted my husband join me when I was expecting our first child, and I eventually dragged my sons along once they were old enough, which turned out to be less of a hard sell than anticipated—after all, who doesn’t enjoy sword fights and acrobatic displays?
While many envision The Nutcracker filled with graceful dancers and the charming Sugar Plum Fairy, the underlying narrative isn’t as idyllic. The story begins with young Clara receiving a Nutcracker from her godfather on Christmas Eve, only for her brother, Fritz, to snatch it away in a fit of jealousy and break it. This scene is all too familiar; it’s the kind of mischief my kids would undoubtedly pull off!
As a parent, I find that much of my holiday stress stems from the unrealistic expectations surrounding Christmas celebrations. My children’s wish lists are filled with extravagant items like hedgehogs and drum sets, alongside pages of the Lego catalog. Then there’s the juggling act of relatives, all vying for equal time with my little ones, coupled with a barrage of invitations and obligations that seem to drain both my finances and my time.
Most overwhelming, however, is the pressure that children must always be well-behaved, patient, and grateful amidst all the chaos—especially when they’re hyper on sugar and running late past bedtime. The concept of a naughty/nice list puts an unfair burden on energetic kids who lack a grasp of time or the idea of delayed gratification. Those who jokingly caution that “Santa’s watching!” should really experience the reality of a holiday meltdown!
If you picture the holidays as a scene with cherubic children in cozy pajamas clutching their teddy bears while dreaming of sugar plums, you’d be in for a surprise if you visited my home in December. Here, it’s more about broken ornaments, tantrums, and time-outs. I’m seriously thinking about commissioning a pillow that reads, “Kids are why we can’t have nice things.”
Yet, The Nutcracker serves as a reminder that this chaotic behavior is completely normal. Kids can be cranky and dissatisfied during the holidays—despite our best efforts to coach them on how to respond to gifts. Their less-than-enthusiastic reactions—frowns and pouts—are often unavoidable, and let’s face it, many adults share the same sentiments, albeit with better poker faces.
This Christmas, I aim to lower my expectations and embrace decor that can withstand the test of time—and little hands. While I may not pass down a cherished nutcracker to future generations (my kids will likely obliterate it first), let’s be honest: nutcrackers are not ideal gifts for kids anyway. If you’re shopping for them, you might want to check out that Lego catalog—I’d personally recommend page 32!
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In summary, The Nutcracker helps me recognize that the holiday season is often messy and unpredictable, filled with both struggles and joys. Lowering expectations and accepting the chaos allows me to enjoy the season more fully, even amidst the broken ornaments and holiday meltdowns.