Updated: November 30, 2019
Originally Published: February 16, 2018
On the night my husband and I decided to part ways, I reached out to my closest friend, and we chatted until the early hours. By the time we ended our conversation, I felt a newfound strength that had been absent for quite some time.
The following day, I texted my sisters at 2 AM, asking if we could meet for lunch. I rarely lean on them for support, especially as busy mothers, but their quick rearrangement of schedules showed me just how much they cared. As we embraced goodbye, a glimmer of confidence began to grow within me.
A few weeks later, my dear friend, who had been my anchor during this tumultuous time, planned a getaway for us. We ventured to Vermont, indulging in massages and comfort food. Upon returning home, I felt cherished and empowered, although I couldn’t help but cry during the drive back, wishing for more time with her to tackle this new chapter.
Life has a unique way of unfolding during challenging times, and I’ve come to believe that true healing requires us to confront uncomfortable emotions. While the pain was sometimes overwhelming, I discovered something remarkable: old friendships began to rekindle. Now, I have three close friends who have also experienced divorce, and I often wonder if we would have reconnected without shared experiences. The Universe has a way of bringing people together when we need them most.
I’ve also forged friendships online, connecting with women who have reached out after I shared my own stories about divorce. One woman, in particular, has become a daily confidante; we exchange Tinder profiles and strategize to avoid overlapping romantic interests. Our pre-date outfit exchanges remind me of college days—full of joy, laughter, and healing.
Every few months, I host gatherings for women at my home, complete with sweets, wine, and even shopping for essentials like sex toys or essential oils. These moments are filled with laughter and connection, and I owe so much to these incredible women. I often reflect on how they have saved me during this challenging period, and I hope I’ve been a source of support for them as well.
Having a circle of girlfriends—whether or not they’ve experienced divorce—provides a crucial sense of assurance that we can face the hurdles of life. Everyone has moments of doubt, questioning our worth or ability to cope. My friendships have significantly shaped my life, helping me navigate high school, college, marriage, motherhood, and now, divorce.
This journey has been the toughest I’ve faced, compelling me to seek help when I least wanted to. Yet, those who are meant to be in our lives will lift us up when we need it most. I feel incredibly fortunate to be surrounded by such love and strength as I find my footing in this new chapter.
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Summary:
Navigating the challenges of divorce can be daunting, but the support from friends and family can make all the difference. Reconnecting with old friends and forming new bonds can provide the strength needed to face this life change. Through laughter, shared experiences, and heartfelt conversations, we can find healing and empowerment.