November brings many delights: the indulgence of pumpkin pie, the thrill of Black Friday shopping sprees, cozy sweaters, and the playful mockery of those who swoon over pumpkin spice everything. However, November is also National Adoption Month, a time when we celebrate children finding their forever homes while expressing gratitude. This duality resonates deeply with me.
As a parent of two adopted children, with adoption being a common thread in my family—my brother and several cousins are also adopted—I’m accustomed to the well-meaning yet intrusive questions that often accompany this journey. While I strive to respond with grace, I sometimes find myself wishing for a more candid approach. Here are some of the responses I’d love to share with those who pose prying questions about adoption:
- “Can’t you have any children of your own?”
Well, no, I can’t, because my reproductive system has been through quite the ordeal—thanks to endometriosis, I’ve lost some essential parts. But hey, who doesn’t enjoy discussing their anatomy over coffee? - “What happened to their real mom?”
Honestly, I’m not sure! These little humans are awake at dawn, demanding breakfast and cartoons. Seems pretty “real” to me. By the way, are those your real nails? - “How much did they cost?”
They were actually complimentary, but the shipping and handling were outrageous! Speaking of expenses, how much did your flashy SUV set you back? - “Do you know Angelina Jolie?”
Absolutely! We were just discussing our love of yoga pants and kid-friendly snacks over a glass of boxed wine. Of course, I know some famous adoptive parents; who doesn’t? - “Why did you adopt from China instead of your own country?”
I adopted from my own species, which I think is quite significant! And just when do we discuss your imported shoes and that Japanese car of yours? - “Now that you’ve adopted, do you think you’ll get pregnant?”
Oh joy, more questions about my reproductive status! See response #1. - “Are you planning to tell them they’re adopted?”
That largely depends on their intelligence levels. If they’re perceptive, we’ll have the talk before they hit their teenage years and start questioning everything. - “You’re a saint for giving those poor children a good home.”
You bet I am! Now, if you’ll excuse me, my kids are approaching with snacks.
Adoption is a deeply personal journey filled with joy and challenges. For anyone considering this path or looking for information on fertility, resources such as March of Dimes can be invaluable, and for those interested in home insemination, check out our guide on the home insemination kit. Additionally, if you’re exploring fertility options, Intracervical Insemination offers expert insights.
In summary, navigating the world of adoption can lead to many questions, some of which can be quite personal. While I aim to respond with patience, there are times when I wish I could express my true feelings. Understanding and sensitivity are key when discussing such profound topics.