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If you’ve experienced childbirth or know someone who has, you’ve probably heard the term “natural birth.” It’s a common question: “Did you have a natural birth?” However, this inquiry can feel invasive and often leaves individuals feeling judged. Birth is a personal journey, and no one should have to defend their choices. Every experience is unique, and what matters most is doing what feels right for you.
Recognizing the potential harm of this term, The New York Times parenting section decided to discontinue its use in 2019. They noted that the phrase “natural birth” could inadvertently shame women whose experiences were not categorized as such—whether due to C-sections, inductions, or choices for pain relief. No one should experience shame for their birthing decisions, which is why it’s time to retire this phrase.
The term “natural birth” is problematic because its meaning varies widely among individuals. For many, it suggests a vaginal delivery without any medication. “Contemporary birthing practices and a resurgence in midwifery are reminiscent of our ancestral practices and emphasize unmedicated births, which are often labeled as natural,” explains reproductive therapist and birth doula, Mariah Lee. She also points out that insurance companies reinforce this terminology because unmedicated births are typically less expensive than those involving medical interventions.
Additionally, “natural birth” can encompass a broader range of choices, such as opting out of certain medical procedures during labor. Given the various interpretations and layers associated with it, it’s clearer to move away from this terminology altogether.
Birth is a deeply personal and intimate experience, often full of unexpected decisions. You may enter the delivery room with a plan, only to have circumstances change. Using the term “natural birth” can inadvertently pass judgment on those who have made different, yet equally valid choices in their birthing process. It can also add to the feelings of inadequacy for those whose experiences didn’t unfold as planned.
Origins of the Term “Natural Birth”
So, where did the phrase “natural birth” originate? Interestingly, it was first introduced by British doctor Grantly Dick-Reed in 1933. In his book Natural Childbirth, he theorized that the declining birth rate among upper and middle-class women was due to their fear of childbirth pain. He aimed to ease their minds, believing that relaxation would help combat this fear and encourage childbirth. By the time he brought his ideas to the U.S. in the 1940s, they were already being referred to with less stigmatizing terms like pain-free childbirth.
While the natural birth movement gained momentum in the 1970s, fueled by the desire to empower women, it has now evolved into something that can make others feel inadequate. The current landscape of childbirth allows individuals to have agency over their experiences, and it’s essential that our language reflects this empowerment rather than exclusion.
Embracing “Good Birth”
The New York Times is now embracing the phrase “good birth” instead of “natural birth.” Dr. Sarah Thompson, an obstetrician and author of A Good Birth: Finding the Positive and the Profound in Your Childbirth Experience, conducted research interviewing women from diverse backgrounds. She identified five key aspects of a “good birth” regardless of how one gives birth:
- Agency: The ability to make personal choices, even when plans shift.
- Personal Security: Feeling safe during the birthing process.
- Connectedness: Establishing a bond with healthcare providers, family, and the newborn.
- Respect: Recognizing that childbirth is a transformative journey.
- Knowledge: Understanding one’s body and the unpredictable nature of childbirth.
This reframing empowers individuals to focus on their experiences rather than the method of delivery. Whether the birth is vaginal or via C-section, medicated or unmedicated, what truly matters is feeling respected and heard, which should be a fundamental aspect of any birth experience.
Conclusion
In summary, language plays a significant role in the birthing experience. By shifting from “natural birth” to “good birth,” we create a more inclusive environment that respects all childbirth experiences. For those interested in further reading, this is one of our other blog posts, which explores similar themes. Additionally, for authoritative insights, check out information from experts like Dr. Max Henderson, and for comprehensive resources on pregnancy and home insemination, visit this excellent site.