Hey there, fellow moms—where are my fellow yellers? I’m right there with you. I often find myself raising my voice, and honestly, I feel pretty awful about it afterward. But let’s face it, parenting is no walk in the park. Add in homeschooling and the chaos of quarantine, and it’s a recipe for meltdown. Sometimes, I just want to scream, “BRUSH YOUR TEETH!” for the hundredth time.
Yes, I lose my cool with my kids, and yes, the neighbors sometimes hear it. But deep down, I know my children feel loved. They’ll cherish the memories of our family game nights and ice cream treats just as much as they’ll recall the moments when I yelled. They understand that I give my all every single day—though it would be great if they listened the first time!
I was in the middle of cleaning when my oldest child called out to me, and I screamed, “WHAT?” I’m exhausted and overwhelmed, and I can hardly keep it together. Confession #25781058: I’m not sure how else to express my need for a break. It’s frustrating when I’ve asked for help, only to feel ignored. Both my partner and I work full-time, so let’s not even go there.
My partner, Jay, does nothing to help with the kids. Yet, when I reach my breaking point and yell, he says, “Can we please stop yelling? You always yell.” If only he understood how much the mental load weighs on me, maybe he’d see why I lose it sometimes. Confession #25760186: Often, our yelling stems from being completely at the end of our rope.
It’s hard to keep my voice down, especially when I’m trying to manage a toddler who’s just being a kid. I sometimes think I should create my own star chart to track how many days I go without yelling at my children. Confession #25751759: I’m trying to approach parenting with more calmness, giving hugs instead of raising my voice. It seems to help, though their behavior can be challenging.
Even on days when I manage to stay calm, the stress can bubble over. I yelled “SHUT UP!” at my GPS while driving, which is just embarrassing. Confession #25758860: There are times when I lose my cool, and even technology doesn’t escape my wrath. I spent a chaotic day yelling at my three-year-old while trying to juggle cleaning and caring for a newborn. Confession #25778063: I know my kids mirror my behavior; they yell because I do.
Yesterday, I got upset with my daughter for being energetic and messy, only to find her sick the next day. I feel terrible for being angry, wishing I had my lively child back. Confession #25773223: Sometimes, I scream “ENOUGH!” at my little ones, and it makes me feel like “Mom of the Year.”
After a day filled with yelling, the guilt can be overwhelming. I yelled at my sensitive daughter on the way to school and felt like a monster. Confession #25760698: I know I’m short with my kids because I’m juggling a full-time job and financial stress. It’s no excuse, but it weighs heavily on me.
I’m embarrassed when my neighbors hear me yelling; I can’t help but feel like a frazzled mom. Confession #25761074: I once accidentally recorded myself yelling at my daughter to do her schoolwork, and it got sent to her teacher. I’m just waiting for a knock on the door from child services.
It’s tough when the world witnesses our emotional outbursts, and it’s even tougher when we feel like we’ve failed. Yet, I’ve noticed that during quarantine, I’ve yelled less than ever before. My kids and I have become great roommates, and I’m sad to see that phase end. Confession #25780720: I’ve seen that there are indeed parents who seem to navigate this journey without raising their voices, and I wonder how they do it.
For many of us, yelling is simply part of parenting. Whether it’s dealing with a toddler who made a mess or a teenager who refuses to clean their room, we all have our limits. Some days, it feels like we’re constantly reminding our children to behave, do their chores, or even just to be kind to one another.
If you find yourself yelling sometimes, don’t be too hard on yourself. Just remember to balance those moments with love and affection, and recognize the good behavior too. It’s all part of the parenting package.
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In summary, yelling is a common reality in parenting. While it can stem from exhaustion and stress, it’s important to remember that it doesn’t define us as parents. Balancing our frustrations with love and kindness is part of the journey.