Is your quarantine intimacy unfolding as you imagined? Are you sneaking away for passionate encounters whenever the kids are preoccupied with their screens? Or has the weight of potential illness, financial struggles, and unexpected homeschooling responsibilities left you too overwhelmed to even consider intimacy? The COVID-19 pandemic has impacted every aspect of our lives, including our romantic connections. Here’s a glimpse into the diverse experiences of our readers regarding their sex lives during these trying times.
If your libido has taken an unexpected nosedive, you’re far from alone.
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We might be the only ones not getting it on during quarantine. Working from home is just as stressful as going into the office, and our four-year-old is always around.
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I was actually looking forward to some spontaneous afternoon fun with my husband at the beginning of this lockdown. But the constant barrage of bad news and my kids’ antics totally killed my mood. Now we’re both frustrated.
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We tried to have some intimate time, but our kid kept banging on the door. Ten minutes later, he snuck back in just as our three-year-old barged in too. Talk about awkward!
On the flip side, some are experiencing a surge of intimacy during this pandemic.
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My partner and I have been getting it on so much during quarantine! If I hadn’t had my tubes tied, I’d probably be expecting by now!
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My husband has stepped up and taken on the teacher role while I work outside the home. He keeps things tidy and we’ve been enjoying an amazing sex life!
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I’m dying to give my husband some attention right now, but he’s essential staff. It’s frustrating!
The real challenge arises when partners are out of sync regarding their desires.
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I thought being home together would lead to more sex, but nope. I keep getting turned down while I’m feeling super horny.
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It’s been three weeks since we last had sex. I tried everything to entice him, but he seems more preoccupied with other things. It’s like I don’t even matter anymore!
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I’m under a lot of stress and could really use a comforting hug from my spouse. Just holding each other would be nice, but he says that’s not happening.
The fear of mortality brings a new perspective.
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I’m using the “we might not have long to live, so let’s enjoy each other” tactic to coax as much intimacy as I can out of my partner during this pandemic.
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I can’t stand being stuck at home with my husband. I miss my lover, and it feels like I won’t get to see him again. Sometimes I think I might never have sex again.
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I wish my husband would prioritize getting a refill on his ED meds. It’s been months, and I feel like my needs don’t matter. I don’t want to go back to a sexless marriage!
If you find yourself in the mood, it’s not always a straightforward path.
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I’m ovulating for the first time since my baby was born. But that means no sex! I’d have to be out of my mind to think about getting pregnant right now.
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Because of ED, my husband needs a shot to be intimate. I finally agreed to sex after a year of him being turned down, but now he’s frantically searching for the medication. This is more entertaining than the actual act!
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My four-year-old has gone wild, my infant is teething, and my husband is in a frenzy over intimacy. There’s not enough wine in the world for this!
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Since the lockdown began, my husband and I haven’t been intimate regularly. The kids are always around, and we’re both exhausted. I’ve resorted to self-pleasure multiple times today, yet I’m still craving intimacy.
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I realize it feels wrong to complain right now, but sometimes I just want to yell at my husband to step up and give me what I need. I’m so tired of the rushed, mediocre encounters that happen every couple of weeks.
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My husband can’t perform when he’s stressed, but I need intimacy when I’m feeling anxious. Looks like I’ll be waiting a while for that!
Ultimately, this pandemic has affected people in vastly different ways when it comes to intimacy. For some, apocalyptic events spark a desire for closeness, while for others, the constant proximity to their partners can be exhausting. Regardless of how COVID-19 is influencing your romantic life, it’s important to remember that this phase won’t last forever. Eventually, our children will return to school, our partners will go back to work, and our homes won’t feel like makeshift classrooms any longer. Right? Let’s hope that’s true!
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Summary:
The COVID-19 pandemic has dramatically influenced people’s sex lives, leading to a spectrum of experiences during quarantine. From couples enjoying increased intimacy to others grappling with stress and disconnection, the impact varies widely. While some find solace in physical connection, others face challenges that hinder their romantic lives. Nonetheless, this phase is temporary, and eventually, life will return to a semblance of normalcy.