Traumatic labor and delivery experiences are more prevalent than many realize. While there’s no such thing as a “simple” labor, a significant number of mothers face trauma surrounding the birth of their children. Research from the Prevention and Treatment of Traumatic Childbirth (PATTCH) indicates that between 25-34% of women describe their childbirth as traumatic.
In our Confessional, several mothers opened up about their own distressing birth stories. Some recounted harrowing experiences, while others highlighted feelings of being unheard or unsupported by medical personnel.
“It’s been over 7 years, but I still want to give a big FU to the nurse who told me, ‘don’t scream,’ and an even bigger one to the doctor who failed to administer my epidural,” shared one mother.
Another expressed the conflicting emotions of desiring a second child while fearing the intensity of labor once again: “Part of me wants a second child, but I can’t face almost dying in labor again, along with the lack of support during recovery and minimal maternity leave.”
One confession revealed the long-lasting impact of severe physical trauma: “I had 4th degree tearing during my first birth and now suffer from both anal and urinary incontinence. My partner insists on a second child. I swear, I will divorce him over this! There will NEVER be another baby from this body!”
The challenge of advocating for oneself during labor can be overwhelming. Many parents shouldn’t have to fight for their needs, yet the desensitization of some medical staff can leave them feeling isolated. “I’ve always been pro-choice, but my PTSD from delivery has made me even more so. Adoption wouldn’t have altered what was done to me, and I know I will never fully recover,” one mother confided.
Another shared, “I love my children more than anything, but I harbor resentment for what I went through to bring them into the world. The pain lingered for months after, and my body is still affected. Sometimes I wish I could have adopted my kids instead.”
One mother reflected on her difficult pregnancy as a young, scared, and financially struggling woman: “My labor was natural and resulted in tearing from front to back. I feel such mixed emotions when I see pregnant women. I just want them to have a different experience than I did.”
PATTCH defines a traumatic birth as one where the parent believes there was a risk to either the mother’s or the baby’s life, or a serious threat to their physical or emotional well-being. After a traumatic birth, some individuals may develop Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), a serious and enduring response to trauma.
“I was in labor to deliver my stillborn daughter at 30 weeks,” one mother shared. Another mother expressed her anxiety about getting pregnant again after losing her son: “Getting pregnant so soon after my son was stillborn was not a good decision. I’m a complete wreck.”
One more mother noted her fear while pregnant with her fourth child after a previous stillbirth: “I wanted this baby, but I’m terrified and constantly questioning why I’m putting myself through this again.”
Regardless of the level of trauma experienced, it’s clear that the U.S. has significant work to do to ensure safe and healthy births. The maternal death rate here is the highest among developed countries, with more American women dying from pregnancy-related complications than anywhere else. This rate is on the rise in the U.S., unlike in other nations.
“I think I still have PTSD from my traumatic childbirth experience; it’s been two years,” said one mother. Another expressed her fears about childbirth: “Pregnant with my second, and the thought that I could die in childbirth and leave my precious toddler behind haunts me. If I dwell on it, I cry. What have I done?”
Some people assume I choose not to have more children to maintain my figure, but that’s far from the truth. I’ve always felt that I would die in childbirth.
Perhaps these mothers would feel more secure if medical professionals and lawmakers truly listened to their concerns rather than relying on anecdotes from fellow mothers in a confessional.
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Summary:
Many mothers experience traumatic labor and delivery, with a significant percentage reporting distressing childbirth experiences. This trauma can lead to lasting effects like PTSD. The importance of proper support and listening to mothers during labor cannot be overstated, as the U.S. faces a rising maternal death rate. Resources for those seeking information on childbirth and parenting are available through various channels.