Like many, I typically avoid contentious topics when sharing on social media—sticking to lighthearted posts about my kids, birthday wishes, and the occasional engaging story. I consciously steer clear of controversial subjects that might make others uncomfortable or provoke upset. My natural inclination is to create a welcoming atmosphere, to avoid conflict, and to prioritize the comfort of those around me—even at the expense of my own feelings. Perhaps this stems from my role as a mother or simply from my personality, but recent events have made it painfully clear that it is time to embrace discomfort. In fact, it’s long overdue.
I’ll still share pictures of my boys—my delightful, spirited, and playful children. They fill my heart with unparalleled love, a love that has only intensified since their births. Other parents can surely relate. It is this profound love that compels me to end my passive behavior and silence regarding race.
I reside in a predominantly white suburban neighborhood, a community I cherish deeply. The friendships I’ve cultivated with my neighbors are invaluable to me, and I am immensely grateful for the safe environment where my children can thrive. This is a dream many parents share. However, the reality is that one day I will need to explain to my sons why they may face different treatment from their peers.
I know this struggle intimately. My siblings and I have navigated it, as have my parents. I grew up in one of the least racially diverse areas and experienced firsthand the sting of being marginalized, insulted, or treated as an outsider simply because of my appearance. Looking back, I wouldn’t erase those experiences; they have fortified me, equipping me to confront similar challenges in adulthood.
In recent days, it has become glaringly evident that some people—even those within my own family—are unwilling or unable to acknowledge the existence of racism or its role in the events following George Floyd’s murder in Minneapolis and St. Paul. The volume of dismissive comments I’ve encountered from those close to me is shocking.
Key Points to Consider
I have many thoughts on this matter, but let me summarize the key points:
- Racism is real and pervasive. If you believe otherwise, I encourage you to examine your privilege and reflect on your perspective. I have no further words for you, as your mindset limits your understanding of this crucial issue.
- Education, open dialogue, and a willingness to reform are vital for breaking the cycle of violence and despair we currently face.
- Mere social media posts are insufficient. If you genuinely advocate for equality and justice, your actions must speak louder than words. There are countless ways to contribute positively: challenge racist comments when you hear them, engage in difficult conversations, and educate yourself about privilege and how to counteract it.
- Engage your children in these discussions. They observe your actions and listen to your words. One day, they will learn about these events in school, and when they ask you what you did during this time, what will you tell them?
Look at my boys. They share the same parents, the same home, and the same values. Yet, they are not the same. I’ve noted that they don’t even look like brothers, and I love this uniqueness. My goal as their mother is to raise them to celebrate their differences, to embrace diversity, and to stand up for what is just. They inspire me to speak out, and when they ask what I did for change, I hope my answer fills them with pride.
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In summary, it is imperative to recognize the reality of racism and actively engage in discussions about it, especially with our children. We must embrace discomfort and strive for justice, demonstrating to the next generation the importance of standing up for equality.