As a parent, there are certain phrases that can grate on your nerves, especially when they come from well-meaning strangers. Comments like, “Should you really let your child eat that?” or “You ought to consider insert unsolicited advice here” can be less than helpful. Yes, feedback can be valuable, but it’s frustrating when it feels like someone is implying that their way is superior. Parenting, much like politics, involves diverse opinions, and it’s essential to respect different approaches, even if you don’t agree with them.
From my journey as a mother over the past six years, I’ve learned that the best approach is doing what feels right for your child. What works for one family may not suit another, and that’s perfectly okay. Just the other day, someone cheerfully suggested, “You have two boys? You should try for a girl!” This leads me to the first thing many moms of boys wish to avoid hearing:
1. Are You Planning to Have a Girl?
As if there’s some enchanted store where I can select my desired daughter! The answer is no. I tell my kids, “You get what you get, and you don’t throw a fit.” I consider myself fortunate to have my two boys; not everyone is lucky enough to experience motherhood.
2. Boys Can Be So Rowdy!
Yes, they certainly can be, but isn’t every child a bit wild? Whether boys or girls, children often exhibit their own unique brand of energy. Yes, mine are energetic—what can I say? They’re just kids!
3. Boys Eventually Leave Their Moms for Their Wives.
I’m aware of that reality. However, many girls also have complex relationships with their mothers. Boys may leave, but so do girls. Children grow up and embark on their own journeys, whether that’s moving out for college or getting married. It’s a natural part of growing up.
4. Boys Are Stinky.
You don’t say! But let’s be honest—everyone has their moments. Girls don’t come equipped with some special gene that prevents them from smelling bad.
5. Aren’t You Upset You Can’t Style Your Kids’ Hair?
Honestly, I struggle to find two matching socks, let alone give hairdos! Who knows what interests my boys might develop in the future?
Ultimately, whether boys or girls, each child holds a unique value. I never envisioned having a specific gender; I simply wanted children. I’m grateful for my boys, and I wouldn’t trade them for anything. They have opened my eyes to a world of enjoyable experiences that I hadn’t encountered growing up. Skating with them, playing in the dirt, or crashing toy trucks has become a source of joy for me.
I’m surrounded by lively, affectionate little boys, and whether they remain this way or evolve over time, I cherish every moment. The future is uncertain, and there’s no guarantee that having a girl would ensure lifelong closeness. My boys love me, and I adore them in return. My mission is clear: to raise them to be kind, respectful individuals who value family, regardless of their future paths.
So, spare me the unsolicited advice about needing a girl, as if a daughter would somehow complete my life. My existence is already full and rich with my boys.
If you’re interested in exploring more about motherhood and family planning, check out our post on the Home Insemination Kit. For those considering options for starting a family, The Costs of Buying More Time for a Baby provides valuable insights. Additionally, for further information on pregnancy and insemination, this resource from Johns Hopkins is an excellent guide.
Summary
Mothers of boys often encounter unsolicited comments about their family dynamics, ranging from questions about having a girl to remarks about boys’ behavior. Each child, regardless of gender, is unique and valuable, and the joy found in raising boys can be profound. Embracing the challenges and joys of motherhood, these moms focus on nurturing their sons into respectful, kind individuals.