As I cradled my 3-year-old, while my oldest was napping, I felt completely drained. The last few days had been a whirlwind of cleaning up after illnesses, countless laundry loads, scrubbing bathrooms, and two trips to the pediatrician for an unusual rash that had spread across almost every inch of my eldest’s body. Just when I thought things were settling down, a high fever took hold of her small frame. For days, I witnessed her struggle—sick, dehydrated, sometimes in agony, and scratching at the hives that plagued her skin. Yet, amidst the chaos, I found gratitude.
I was grateful for the opportunity to care for my daughter during her bout with a stomach virus. I appreciated my flexible work schedule that allowed me to shut my laptop and be fully present with her. I felt blessed to have moments alone with my toddler, especially during such a challenging week focused primarily on her sister. Most importantly, I held onto the belief that this too would pass, and she would heal.
Many parents lack the time we have to spend with our children. For my daughter, this was merely a stomach virus that extended beyond the usual duration, not a life-threatening condition. She doesn’t endure chronic health issues that complicate daily life. This was just a phase of her school journey, part of building her immune system. Even though the sleepless nights were taxing for my partner and me, I still felt incredibly fortunate to be a mom.
Parenting, after all, is largely about perspective. Before becoming a parent, we were overwhelmed by uncertainty. The struggle to conceive naturally filled me with fear, and the idea of undergoing IVF was daunting. Yet, focusing on the potential outcome made the process bearable. Once I became pregnant, I dreaded labor, terrified of the pain, yet once it began, I barely remembered the discomfort or complications—I simply overcame it, just as countless women have. I even did it all over again with my second child.
Then came the anxiety about never reclaiming my body, and while it’s true I haven’t returned to my pre-baby shape, I’ve come to terms with it. My body tells the story of carrying my two beautiful daughters.
Doubts about my ability to be a good mother or have the patience to teach surfaced, but those feelings subsided with time.
Through this journey, I’ve learned that parenting mirrors life—it’s all about perspective, and regardless of the challenges we face, I’m grateful to be a mom.
I have friends who are apprehensive about parenthood, just as I once was. As they plan their weddings and read my humorous anecdotes about the trials of parenthood, they often focus solely on the tough moments. Yes, life changes dramatically when you have children. Social outings may be less frequent, and careers require careful balance and planning. One must always be ready for the unexpected, whether it’s a sudden illness or an unforeseen tantrum. However, the rewards far outweigh the challenges of raising children.
I never realized how much love I could hold until I was called “Mommy.” It’s indescribable to those without kids just how full your heart feels when you first hold your baby. The anticipation of seeing them after a workday and the joy of watching them run toward you, smiles beaming, is unmatched. The simple sound of “Mommy” can bring tears to your eyes, and that snug fit on your lap feels like a missing piece of a puzzle you never knew existed.
Being a parent is a remarkable gift, and while life changes, it does so for the better. You’ll relive your childhood through your children’s eyes and rediscover the world anew. Holidays and birthdays become infinitely more exciting as you create your family, legacy, and circle of love.
Even during these past few days with a sick daughter, we chose to be grateful. We played games, cuddled, watched movies, and engaged in meaningful conversations—just as the moment required. Parenting truly hinges on perspective, and in this instance, I felt lucky to simply be Mom.
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In summary, parenting is a journey shaped by perspective. The challenges are real, but the joys of motherhood are immeasurable.