When I first graduated college, I splurged on a pair of extravagant strappy stilettos—the most glamorous shoes in my closet, yet utterly impractical. They were the epitome of sexy footwear: tall, sleek, and adorned with sparkles, demanding attention in the most alluring way. However, they were also the most torturous footwear I’d ever owned, causing excruciating pain to my toes and feet. But, like many in my 20s, I chose to endure the discomfort for the sake of fashion.
My best friend dubbed them my “look-at-me” shoes—aptly named, as they screamed sex appeal. Yet, every time I slipped them on, I found myself silently cursing their existence, enduring blisters and sore feet just to look good. Fast forward 15 years and a couple of kids later, and those painful memories are long gone. Now, when I’m racing against time to pick up my toddlers, comfort has taken precedence.
The Transformation of Footwear Choices
The transformation of a woman can often be traced through her footwear choices. One moment, we might be teetering in knee-high boots with pointed heels, risking a fall during winter, and the next, we’re casually sporting fleece-lined Crocs for a quick grocery run—because let’s be honest, who cares? In our younger days, we might spend an entire paycheck on designer heels and maintain a collection of strappy sandals, including must-haves in red and gold. But the reality of preschool expenses soon shifts our priorities, and we find ourselves leaning towards affordable sneakers from T.J. Maxx.
We start off in those daring stilettos, only to eventually gravitate towards comfortable flats and slippers. Sure, we might try to hold onto our youthful spirit with wedge espadrilles, but carrying a baby throws off our balance, making us reconsider our choices. Eventually, we reach a breaking point. The pain, the blisters—it’s just not worth it anymore. Enter the era of practical footwear.
Embracing Practical Footwear
Danskos and basic flats become our everyday staples. While Danskos might not be the most stylish option, they allow us to slip them on while wrangling toddlers and juggling daily tasks. My personal favorite? Going barefoot. There’s something liberating about strolling into school drop-off in slippers—something I might indulge in regularly.
That said, we still break out the sparkly heels and stylish boots for special occasions, not to impress anyone, but because they make us feel fabulous. I still have a soft spot for eye-catching shoes, but there comes a time in every woman’s life when the resilience of sturdy boots takes precedence over stilettos. Badass shoes empower us, instilling a sense of confidence and strength. Whether they’re sparkly, cozy, tall, or flat, what truly matters is comfort. After all, no one has time for subpar shoes when we’re out to conquer the world.
Resources for Navigating Parenthood
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In summary, our footwear choices reflect our evolution from daring and impractical to comfortable and practical, all while embracing our journey through motherhood.