Updated: Oct. 10, 2023
Originally Published: May 16, 2017
After every holiday and my children’s birthdays, I find myself battling not just a post-celebration slump but also an overwhelming desire to grab a trash bag and clear out the excess clutter that has accumulated. It’s a tough situation that leaves me both frustrated and drained.
Gift-giving doesn’t stop there, either. Even during casual weekend visits, certain family members and friends seem to think that showering my kids with presents is the best way to show they care. While I appreciate their generosity, maintaining an organized home is becoming increasingly challenging with all the toys, candy, and novelty items crammed into every nook and cranny. I mean, who needs a freezer full of slime kits when there’s gelato that deserves the space?
I’ve seen my children come home from birthday parties with so much stuff that you’d think it was their special day. Sure, receiving gifts brings joy, but I’ve noticed that this happiness is often short-lived. Their excitement quickly shifts from glee to feeling overwhelmed, leading to the dreaded “I’m bored. What’s next?” lament.
We’ve all experienced those moments when we’ve splurged on fancy toys, only to find our kids captivated by the cardboard box it came in. The allure of new items fades, and they start expecting gifts simply for being present. This cycle of constant gifting dilutes the magic of receiving something special.
The more gifts my kids get, the less meaningful they become. Instead of enjoying the moment, they start to look forward to what they’ll receive next time, which isn’t the kind of mindset I want for them. I love that you care, but I urge you to reconsider how you express that love.
Please, I’m asking you kindly: let’s put a stop to this excessive gifting. My children know they are cherished, and I’m grateful for your presence in their lives. But there are countless ways to show affection that don’t require a trip to the store. Instead of buying them the latest toy or a quirky gadget they’ll grow tired of, how about spending quality time with them?
Bring your energy and enthusiasm when you visit. Engage them at the park or simply enjoy a conversation. These moments are priceless and far more memorable than any material gift could ever be.
I understand I might come off as overly strict or ungrateful, but trust me, everyone will adapt. We truly just want your time and attention. So, feel free to skip the gifts and instead, consider treating me to a latte or some quiet time with a book next time you visit—just a thought!
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Summary:
In this heartfelt plea, the author urges family and friends to refrain from overwhelming their children with gifts, highlighting how it diminishes the joy of receiving. Instead, she encourages meaningful interactions and quality time as better ways to show love.