As adults, the question of whether we were breastfed or formula-fed rarely crosses our minds. Personally, I have no clue if I was breastfed, nor do I know about my partner, my brother, or even influential figures like Nikola Tesla.
When I take my little one to the pediatrician for her frequent ear infections, the subject of her feeding method has never come up. It’s simply not part of the conversation, except for those early days when I was trying to establish breastfeeding and documenting feedings in the hospital.
Once you move past the initial stages of feeding your child, unless you’re a dedicated advocate, this topic is likely to fade into the background. You’d hardly know it from the buzz on the internet about the so-called “feeding wars” that suggest it’s a constant point of discussion. Spoiler alert: it’s not.
There is indeed a need for support for mothers wishing to breastfeed. Access to lactation consultants should be as common as obtaining formula samples, empowering mothers to make informed choices. However, this is not something you should lose sleep over. After the first year—or however long you choose to breastfeed—you’ll hardly think about it again. You’ll be preoccupied with new challenges and milestones that come with parenting.
The key takeaway: ignore the noise. What truly matters is that your child is nourished and you’re content with your choices, whether that means breast milk or formula. People can debate the merits of each method endlessly—let them.
There will always be articles that push the narrative that breastfeeding is superior, one of which I recently encountered titled “If You Don’t Breastfeed, I’m Judging You.” The absurdity is stunning, with quotes like, “You’re a mammal. You’re built to lactate.” It’s a comical reminder that extreme opinions are everywhere. Remember, no one cares about your baby more than you do, and no decision you make regarding feeding should invoke guilt. Whether you say, “I can’t pump at work” or “I simply don’t want to,” both are valid.
Understand this: the question “Were you breastfed?” is not going to be relevant when you’re an adult. It won’t matter on college applications, job interviews, or in your daily life.
So, whenever guilt creeps in regarding your feeding choices, just remind yourself: no one gives a hoot if you were breastfed or formula-fed. If someone does, they’re probably a bit odd.
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Summary
In conclusion, whether you were breastfed or formula-fed is inconsequential as an adult. The focus should be on the well-being of your child and your happiness with your feeding choices. Don’t let societal pressures dictate your parenting decisions.