You know that satisfying feeling when water quenches your thirst after a long wait? Or the delightful experience of savoring your grandmother’s apple pie after abstaining from sweets? The idea that “good things come to those who wait” often holds true, especially in the realm of pleasure.
Just as I advise my daughter, who balances her dishwashing job with her desire to save for a car, sometimes the wait makes the reward sweeter. While she wishes for instant gratification, I stress that the journey and hard work will enhance her appreciation for what she earns.
But have you considered how this concept extends to your intimate life? Enter the practice of edging, which involves bringing yourself to the brink of orgasm and then pulling back, a technique that can lead to more intense climaxes.
I understand that for busy parents, this might seem impractical. After a long day, collapsing into bed often leads to a quick release before sleep. However, if you find a moment to explore edging, it could be worth the effort.
Getting Started with Edging
So, how do you get started with this intriguing technique, and what benefits does it offer? We connected with Jenna Hart, a Certified Sex Educator and Relationship Expert from SexualAlpha, who shared some valuable insights.
To begin, shift your mindset around masturbation. The goal should be the experience itself rather than simply reaching climax. “Masturbation shouldn’t just be a way to relieve boredom or stress,” Hart emphasizes.
Additionally, avoid using porn or provocative images while edging. These distractions can take you away from your own sensations. Instead, focus inward to enhance your awareness of your body. Hart suggests starting solo to familiarize yourself with your arousal stages before involving a partner.
Creating the Right Environment
Create a comfortable environment: dim the lights, lock the door, light some candles, or play calming music—whatever helps you feel at ease. Close your eyes and visualize someone or something that excites you. As you touch yourself and notice the physical sensations, be mindful of your body’s reactions: your heart rate quickens, your muscles tense, and your skin flushes. This is the excitement phase of arousal.
The key is to maintain a balance between arousal and restraint. Aim to hover around 80% excitement and then dial it back to 50% by stopping stimulation just before climax. “Remove your hands from your sensitive areas and slow down the pace,” advises Hart.
As you practice, pay attention to how your orgasms feel once you allow yourself to release. You might notice they are more powerful and prolonged.
Edging with a Partner
For those interested in trying edging with a partner, communication is vital. When nearing climax, let your partner know to switch to gentler touches on other areas of your body, such as your thighs or breasts, until you’re ready to climax again.
The Benefits of Edging
The benefits of edging are significant. It increases bodily awareness and helps you understand your pleasure points, ultimately leading to more satisfying orgasms. According to Hart, this practice can enhance your confidence in your body and pleasure.
Taking a few moments for personal exploration, even if it means sneaking away for some “me time,” can lead to more fulfilling intimate experiences.
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Summary
Edging, the practice of delaying orgasm, can lead to more intense and prolonged pleasurable experiences. By focusing on the journey rather than the destination, individuals can enhance their awareness of their bodies and improve their intimate relationships. Communication with partners during this practice is essential for maximizing pleasure.