Let’s be honest: the societal pressure to breastfeed can be overwhelming. Every week, numerous platforms share stories from mothers detailing their nursing or pumping challenges. Recently, Jenna Morris opened up in a heartfelt narrative about her own breastfeeding journey. While reading her account, I couldn’t help but notice the mixed reactions in the comments section. Most were filled with encouragement and understanding, yet a surprising number were critical and harsh—directed both at her and at others who shared their own struggles.
I firmly believe everyone is entitled to their opinions, but there comes a time when enough is enough. It’s unacceptable to criticize someone for their choice to breastfeed or not. That decision is deeply personal. I absolutely recognize the benefits of breastfeeding, but I would never judge someone who opts out.
The Reality of Breastfeeding
Breastfeeding isn’t just a choice; it’s an all-consuming job. Whether you’re nursing or pumping—or a combination of both—you’re constantly on call as a milk provider. As a mother of two, I’ve breastfed both of my children. It was far from easy, filled with tears, frustrations, and challenges including painful nipples and exhausting days. I managed to breastfeed my first child for three months before my supply began to dwindle. With my second, I lasted six months, but the experience was markedly different.
My milk supply was plentiful this time. I was able to feed her and still have enough to freeze a good amount. I would open the freezer and feel a sense of pride at my efforts. However, I was also nearing my physical and mental breaking point. After three months, I switched to exclusive pumping, hoping that allowing others to bottle-feed would lessen the pressure, but it didn’t help as much as I hoped.
The Struggles and Guilt
I fought hard to keep going. Thankfully, my support system reassured me that stopping wouldn’t mean I was failing my baby. But when my second child reached six months, I knew I had to stop. I was exhausted from being tethered to the pump multiple times a day. I was tired of waking up to soaked shirts and racing against the clock to fit in pumping sessions before the day began. I was fed up with the constant need to carry my pump everywhere and the stress of squeezing in sessions at events, often leaving me feeling embarrassed and overwhelmed.
I felt an immense sense of milk guilt, largely self-imposed because I recognized how fortunate I was to successfully breastfeed. Yet, each time I saw someone else’s breastfeeding struggles online, I felt additional pressure from the judgmental comments that followed. Eventually, I had an epiphany: “Forget them!” I reminded myself that those critics were not part of my life and didn’t understand my reality. My body, my choices. My baby was thriving and had six months of breast milk under her belt (not to mention the frozen stash).
Finding Peace
So, I finally stopped pumping, which led to a bout of mastitis—of course—but I also regained control over my body and sanity. My baby didn’t notice the change. There was no chaos; everything continued smoothly. I was finally getting more sleep without having to transform into a dairy factory every few hours.
Ultimately, a happy mother is a good mother. To those who act like the breastfeeding police, it’s time to rethink your approach. Stop imposing your rigid standards on mothers who either can’t or choose not to breastfeed. It’s bullying, and there’s enough guilt to go around without adding to it.
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In summary, the journey of breastfeeding can be fraught with challenges and guilt. Each mother’s experience is unique, and it’s crucial to support one another rather than judge. The most important thing is the well-being of both mother and child.