Recently, I marked off another significant milestone in life: taking my daughter on a college shopping spree. It’s one of those events you hear about but don’t fully grasp until you’re living it yourself.
No, this wasn’t about Botox or a colonoscopy—this was the highly anticipated trip to stores like Bed, Bath & Beyond and Target, hunting for all those adorable dorm essentials that will inevitably not fit in her new space, or will be buried under a mountain of belongings by mid-September.
While it was a wonderful and memorable day, it came with a few lessons learned along the way. With many of you likely facing this task in the upcoming weeks or years, I thought I would share my insights. If you feel the urge to express gratitude, cash is always welcome—I’ll need it to help cover her tuition!
Do’s and Don’ts of Dorm Room Shopping:
- Do invest in a mattress protector that guards against bed bugs, allergens, and other unspeakable contaminants.
Don’t dwell on what “other contaminants” might encompass. - Do encourage her to pick out a stylish dry erase board for her door.
Don’t mention that by the end of the first week, someone will inevitably draw something inappropriate on it. - Do buy her two sets of sheets for easy changes.
Don’t consider the fact that the second set will probably stay unopened. - Do get at least 25 sturdy hangers.
Don’t remind her that her closet will only accommodate about 10. - Do stock up on Command hooks and wall adhesive.
Don’t inform her that nothing adheres to cinder-block walls—after all, they are used in prisons for a reason. - Do choose vibrant, cheerful towels for her use.
Don’t think about the awkwardness of her walking back from communal bathrooms wrapped in one. - Do assure her that sharing a bathroom won’t be as dreadful as she anticipates.
Don’t gag internally while saying this. - Do treat her to a nice lunch during your shopping day.
Don’t let her catch on that this will be the last decent meal she enjoys until Thanksgiving. - Do listen empathetically when she expresses her fears about leaving home.
Don’t panic and try to lock her in her room while searching for “Home-Colleging” tips online. - Do ensure she has pepper spray for her keychain.
Don’t picture any scenario where it might be necessary. - Do splurge on a high-quality memory foam mattress topper.
Don’t choose one that can comfortably support more than just her weight. - Do buy her a microwave.
Don’t assume she’ll use it for anything other than popcorn. - Do allow her to indulge in a couple of fun items.
Don’t let her know it may be the last time you’re picking up the tab. - Do compliment her on the cuteness of the mini-fridge.
Don’t point out that it will barely fit two bottles of water and a snack. - Do sneak in a few surprises in her bags.
Don’t think of yourself as a “surprise.” - Do get her an umbrella.
Don’t mention that no umbrella will keep her dry during a half-mile trek to class in a downpour. - Do prepare a care package with essential medications, Band-Aids, and a thermometer.
Don’t set a reminder on your phone to check if she’s using them. - Do remind her to account for all the items currently cluttering her room.
Don’t stress out when you realize she may leave it all behind. - Do be patient when she contradicts your well-meaning advice.
Don’t chuckle when she calls in six weeks admitting you were right. - Do cherish the time spent together during this special outing.
Don’t view it as an end; instead, see it as a new beginning.
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Summary:
Taking your child shopping for college is a significant milestone filled with excitement and lessons. From selecting essential dorm items to managing expectations and emotions, this experience marks both an ending and a new beginning.