Our middle daughter is a true free spirit. At just three years old, she received a baby doll that she humorously named “Horse.” Not long after, she began galloping around on all fours—not merely crawling, but racing with astonishing speed while making clippity-clop sounds. Whenever she could, she would trot, canter, and whinny, embodying the essence of a wild horse.
As she grew older, around age seven, her passion shifted to cats. Her impressive speed on all fours still proved useful, but now she would meow and purr, even drinking from a bowl like a feline. For four consecutive birthdays, she chose cat-themed celebrations. Initially a hesitant reader, she devoured 42 novels in six months after discovering the Warriors series, which features feral cats living in clans and battling for survival.
More recently, she’s adopted the posture and mannerisms of a bald eagle. It’s remarkable how accurately she can mimic any animal she closely observes. However, what was once adorable in her younger years now appears more eccentric as she approaches her eleventh birthday. One day, she came to me in tears because her friends had lost interest in playing “Warrior Cats.” For her, this isn’t just a game; it’s a vital part of her identity. She has expressed, with deep sincerity, her longing to have been born as an animal rather than a human, feeling a profound connection to the animal kingdom.
Navigating her unique perspective as a parent can be challenging. We strive to support her creativity and passions while also preparing her for the reality that not everyone will accept her quirks. The social landscape can be unkind, and we want to ensure she understands that some may view her interests as strange, without implying that we feel the same way.
Homeschooling has provided her with a unique environment, allowing her to express herself freely without the constant pressure of peer judgment. Yet, the stereotype that homeschoolers are odd can sometimes amplify her situation. The fact that our daughter believes she is an animal does little to dispel that notion.
But here’s the truth: everyone possesses their own peculiarities. The idea that there exists a standard for interests, behaviors, and personalities is utterly misguided. Many people suppress their true passions to conform to societal norms, losing parts of themselves in the process. Conversely, countless innovators and creators have transformed the world by embracing their individuality.
Who knows how our daughter will channel her affinity for animals? Perhaps she will run an animal rescue, advocate for wildlife conservation, or become involved in researching endangered species. Regardless of where her journey leads, it’s crucial that any changes she makes stem from her own choices, not from societal pressures. Our aim is to help her view her eccentricities as gifts, her “weirdness” as a beautiful facet of her identity.
To affirm this, we gifted her a food and water bowl with her name on it for her ninth birthday. We established some guidelines—no animal behavior at the dinner table and using her bowls only when we didn’t have guests—but this gift resonated deeply with her, more than almost anything else we’ve ever given.
When other parents discovered that we bought pet bowls for our daughter, they thought it was unusual. But hey, at least we know where she gets her unique spirit!
If you’re raising kids who don’t fit the conventional mold, let them know you appreciate their distinctiveness. Encourage them to shine their unique light on the world, no matter what others may think. It requires courage and resilience to stay true to oneself, but fostering these qualities will empower them to pursue their dreams. And when they doubt, remind them that everyone else is wonderfully weird in their own way.
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In summary, embracing a child’s uniqueness involves supporting their passions while preparing them for a world that may not always be accepting. It’s vital to encourage them to maintain their authenticity and see their quirks as valuable traits.