As a mother of three, I’ve always made it a point to cherish each phase of my children’s lives. It’s evident that they grow up quickly, and each stage is fleeting. I’ve learned that focusing on the positives of every age is the best approach.
Of course, I’ve had my favorites. The baby phase was delightful, though the lack of sleep was tough. The toddler years had their charm despite the frequent meltdowns. I also relished the preschool and early elementary stages, especially with their expanding vocabularies and amusing pronunciations.
However, I must admit, my enthusiasm waned a bit during the elementary and preteen years. While I adore my kids no matter their age, those middle years felt somewhat lackluster to me. Many parents rave about the preteen stage, but as my eldest has now stepped into her teenage years, and my second child is approaching them, I can confidently say that the teen years are proving to be my favorite. Yes, you read that right.
Teenagers often receive a negative reputation, labeled as difficult or moody. Yet, my experience has been quite the opposite. I’ve genuinely enjoyed this new chapter, especially after the tumultuous tween years.
One of the joys of parenting a teenager is engaging in meaningful, adult-like conversations with my 16-year-old without needing to filter my words for age-appropriateness. Her humor has matured, moving past the silly jokes that often don’t make sense. I cherish our coffee dates and the way she’s beginning to take greater responsibility for her life and future aspirations. The world of opportunities is opening up for her, and it’s thrilling to witness.
Of course, the challenges are more significant now than they were during her younger years. As parents, we must guide her through more complex issues that carry substantial consequences. Thankfully, we can discuss these matters openly, making them less intimidating for both of us.
From the onset of our parenting journey, we’ve prioritized open and loving communication. Now that our children are growing older, we’re witnessing the results of our efforts. Our daughters approach us with their curiosities and dilemmas, unafraid to express their opinions or challenge us. While we haven’t gotten everything right—far from it—this aspect of our parenting feels like a success.
Additionally, there’s something refreshing about nearing the “finish line,” so to speak. While parenting is a lifelong commitment, the most demanding years are typically within the first 15 to 18 years. I love being a mother, yet I also look forward to the years when my kids are more independent. Although it’s bittersweet, and I sometimes wish to pause time, the prospect of freedom is enticing. By the time my youngest reaches the age my oldest is now, I will have been actively parenting for 24 years. That’s quite a journey, and I’m eager to see what lies ahead—for them and for me.
While many dread the teenage years, I’m here to share that they can be far more rewarding than anticipated. Every family is unique, and yes, there are challenging teens out there. Yet, countless amazing teenagers exist as well. Worry is natural, but grief? Not so much.
So far, my experience with the teen years has been incredibly fulfilling. I sincerely hope that the same joy awaits my other two children when they reach this stage. Fingers crossed.
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In summary, the teenage years can be a delightful surprise for parents willing to embrace them. It’s a time of growth, learning, and deepening relationships that can be incredibly rewarding.