February 4, 2017
When my children were young, the idea of hosting playdates filled me with dread. I would mentally prepare for the inevitable chaos, often wishing for quieter afternoons spent reading or playing in the sandbox with my kids. Although I participated, I didn’t frequently offer to host; it was just too overwhelming, and I typically needed a few weeks to recover after each gathering.
With three little ones at home, they entertained each other just fine, but their ability to create messes was astounding. Add a few extra kids into the mix, and I would barely recognize my own name by the end of the day. Sometimes, I had to bribe my own kids just to get them in the car so we could escape before I completely lost it.
However, as they’ve transitioned into their teen and tween years, I’ve come to cherish the time spent with their friends. I actively encourage them to invite their peers over on weekends or during school breaks. Perhaps I’m enjoying it a bit too much, trying to relive my own teenage experiences, but I truly don’t mind. Hosting these wonderful kids is a joy, and my door is always open. Part of my enthusiasm stems from the guilt of not having hosted more in their younger years.
Here’s why I love being the house where all the kids convene:
- Independence and Self-Sufficiency
The teens are more than capable of fending for themselves. They entertain each other with minimal supervision, and my only job is to ensure there’s plenty of food available. I don’t mind if they clean out the fridge, and the pulsating music makes the house feel like a lively party. Their laughter and energy fill the space, and when they call me “Mama Dawson,” it warms my heart. It signifies their comfort in my home, and when they devour my freshly baked muffins in no time, I feel like a culinary rockstar. - Witnessing Strong Friendships Blossom
It’s incredible to observe my children forming bonds reminiscent of my own childhood friendships—connections that last a lifetime. At this age, having a supportive group is crucial. Navigating the challenges of adolescence is tough, and these friendships are essential for their growth. - A Dash of Humor
While teenagers can be moody, they also bring a lot of laughter. I can joke with them, engage in discussions about politics, and they tease me right back. They keep me feeling youthful and vibrant (even if I’m currently banned from saying “lit”). - Staying Connected
As parents, we strive to be involved in our kids’ lives, but during the teen years, it can be challenging to know what they’re experiencing. Their friends become a priority, and family often takes a back seat. I remember feeling the same way when I was a teenager. I want my children and their friends to feel welcome here. I may not always hang out with them, but being nearby allows me to feel included. Sure, I occasionally eavesdrop, but it’s my house, and I can do what I want—all out of love, of course. Other parents appreciate my involvement too.
So, until my kids grow up and move out (please don’t make me think about that), I’ll keep the door wide open, always have something baking in the oven, and embrace the youthful energy that fills my home. The quiet will come soon enough, and I hope that when my kids’ friends leave, they’ll return to visit, still calling me “Mama Dawson” and indulging in a plate of cookies that disappear in minutes. Because honestly, I know I’m going to miss these days more than I can imagine.
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Summary
The author reflects on the joy of opening her home to her children’s friends as they enter their teen years, highlighting the benefits of fostering independence, strong friendships, and maintaining a connection during this challenging phase of life. She embraces the chaos, the laughter, and the comfort that comes from being the go-to house for her kids and their friends.