Hello, I’m a former food addict. It has taken me years to come to terms with my struggles: food dependency, distorted self-image, emotional turmoil, and the relentless cycle of dieting and bingeing. I often found myself questioning my appearance, comparing myself to others on the street and repeatedly saying, “Am I bigger than her?” or “Only show me photos from the neck up.” This behavior has been a part of my life for as long as I can remember.
After losing my mother in early 2014, I hit a breaking point—my weight reached an all-time high, and my jeans were uncomfortably tight. I was faced with a choice: continue down a path of obesity or commit to a healthier lifestyle. On a seemingly ordinary Thursday, I chose the latter. I started a home workout program, cleared out my pantry of junk food, and meticulously planned my meals. In just a few months, I lost 30 pounds and dropped four sizes. I was actively engaging with nutrition and fitness, transforming into a new version of myself. It was an incredible journey, but despite my physical changes, my self-perception remained largely unchanged.
Even with smaller jeans and a slightly slimmer figure, I struggled to see myself positively. I still scrutinized my reflection, focusing on perceived imperfections rather than appreciating my progress. The desire to get pregnant soon motivated me to keep pushing forward. Then, I found out I was expecting.
The initial stage of fertility treatment brought significant weight gain before I even conceived, and once pregnant, the cravings intensified. I grappled with the urge to stick to my healthy habits while worrying about gaining weight. Yet, I knew I had to prioritize my baby’s growth. I tried to convince myself that my pregnancy weight gain was manageable and something I could address later. It was an internal battle that raged on.
Learning I was having a daughter shifted my perspective. I had always been a tomboy and envisioned raising a boy, but now I faced the challenge of nurturing a young girl. I realized that I had to model confidence and self-love for her. This realization sparked a change in how I viewed myself. I began to smile at my reflection and appreciate my body more.
I took a hard look at my eating habits, recognizing the need to stop using food as a reward. I aimed to adopt a lifestyle that incorporated physical activity in a way that felt natural, not forced. My goal was to create a healthy environment for my daughter, free from the same struggles I had faced.
As my pregnancy progressed, my perspective shifted dramatically. I found myself less concerned about weight gain and more focused on my health and the well-being of my baby. I began to accept my body, even as it changed. I realized that I could love myself, flaws and all.
This journey towards self-acceptance has been unexpected but profoundly transformative. My daughter may not be here yet, but she has already inspired me to embrace who I am. I am learning to appreciate my body and my capabilities, and I am committed to maintaining a healthy lifestyle for both of us.
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Summary
Pregnancy has catalyzed my journey toward self-acceptance. Although I struggled with food addiction and body image issues, anticipating the arrival of my daughter prompted me to reflect on how I see myself. By focusing on nurturing a healthy lifestyle, I am learning to embrace my body and instill confidence in my future child.