Hey, my plus-size friends! Let’s have a real chat about our bodies and why we should stop feeling like we owe anyone an apology for simply existing in them.
I’m a proud member of the fat community. Over the past few years, I’ve embraced my body and the joy that comes with it. The constant battle against diet culture had me feeling miserable, always chasing after an unrealistic thin ideal. I decided enough was enough. I chose to reject that negativity and celebrate my body as it is.
My body, regardless of its size, has done amazing things for me. I enjoy living in it and pursuing what makes me happy. Of course, part of that is ensuring I receive the medical care I need. However, navigating the healthcare system can be tough when you’re fat. There’s a lot of stigma and bias, making it hard to find providers who treat you with respect.
But trust me, they do exist! I’ve built my own “healthcare dream team” – from my primary care physician to my gynecologist and dermatologist. These professionals address my health needs without any hint of body shame. It took some trial and error to find them, but it was worth it.
Taking Control of the Narrative
One of my strategies to ease the anxiety around medical visits is to bring up my body first. This way, I control the narrative and set the tone for the conversation. I can express how I prefer to discuss my body and watch how they respond. This approach makes everyone more comfortable, and it also sends a clear message: I’m not here to apologize for taking up space.
Fostering a Healthier Relationship with Healthcare Providers
So, let’s talk about some things you can do to foster a healthier relationship with your healthcare providers.
First and foremost, never apologize for your body. There’s absolutely no reason to say sorry for being in a larger body. You have every right to exist as you are, without feeling the need to justify your presence. It’s tempting to make light of your size or to make jokes, but remember – you don’t owe your doctors a thing except for their fees.
It can be empowering to discuss your body unapologetically. Many of us have been conditioned to feel guilty for simply living in our skin. But let’s shake that off! You can talk about your incredible body without uttering a single apology.
Don’t hesitate to bring up your body first during appointments. I always start by clarifying that I’m comfortable in my size. I inform my provider that I’m willing to cooperate to make their job easier, whether that means adjusting my position or allowing extra time if needed. This proactive approach not only helps me feel more relaxed but also communicates that I know what to expect during the visit.
Understanding Health Beyond Size
It’s essential to recognize that being fat doesn’t mean you’re unhealthy. I often remind my doctor that my size doesn’t define my health status. The BMI system is outdated and unfair, oversimplifying complex health matters. Sure, it’s vital to have your overall health checked, but no one should treat you like a problem just because of your size. It’s perfectly okay to have health issues, regardless of body size.
Expect your healthcare providers to engage with you respectfully. They should communicate honestly without any judgment. If you ever feel disrespected, remember you deserve better, and don’t hesitate to walk away from that situation.
Embracing the Journey
Getting comfortable with your body size being a neutral fact is a journey. If your doctor mentions your size, try not to view it as a critique. It’s normal to feel a bit uneasy when your body is brought up, but remember that’s just the residual effect of diet culture. It takes time to adjust, so be patient with yourself.
For more insights on navigating these conversations, check out this related post on our blog. It’s a great resource for anyone looking to feel more empowered in their body and health discussions.
Conclusion
In summary, it’s time for us to stop apologizing for our bodies. We all deserve to feel respected and acknowledged in our own skin, and it’s crucial to advocate for ourselves in medical settings. Remember, your body is not a mistake, and you owe no one an apology for being who you are.