I have three sons, and I can confidently say that my family is complete. Contrary to what some might think, I’m not hoping for a girl—it’s simply that we’re finished with expanding our family. After having three children in under 3.5 years, I feel quite fulfilled. Yet, I often find it frustrating when people assume that my family isn’t whole simply because I don’t have a daughter, as if having “just” boys makes my experience incomplete.
Our Family Planning Journey
When my partner, Alex, and I discussed starting a family, we never focused on the gender of our future children. Our conversations revolved around how many kids we believed would be right for us. Initially, we considered having four, but we eventually agreed that three was ideal. Throughout my pregnancies with my second and third sons, we never considered stopping if one was a girl or continuing if it was another boy. The thought of looking down at a newborn and thinking, “Another boy—guess we’ll keep trying” felt deeply wrong to me.
Adjusting Expectations
Admittedly, I had to adjust to the notion that I wouldn’t have a daughter, as I always envisioned having one. However, I have never felt disappointment with any of my boys. While I know I would have cherished a daughter had I had one, I have never wished any of my sons were girls. Now that we are done having kids, I don’t even contemplate adding to our family.
Complete with Three
Three children are more than enough for us. When people suggest trying for a girl, it irritates me. It’s as if my family isn’t considered whole without at least one of each gender. If we were to consider having another baby, pregnancy hormones would likely compel me to respond sharply to anyone who glances between my boys and a potential baby bump, declaring, “I hope it’s a girl.” I’ve heard such comments before during my third pregnancy and often contemplated saying, “If it’s not, do you want him? I’m only having a third to try for a girl,” just to highlight the absurdity of their remarks.
Celebrating My Role as a Boy Mom
I don’t feel like I’m missing out by having “only” boys. My sons are wonderful, albeit a bit wild at times, and I truly embrace my role as a mother to boys. My family is complete.
Resources for Fertility and Conception
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Conclusion
In summary, my family, consisting of three energetic boys, feels entirely complete. I have no desire for a daughter, and I relish in my experiences as a boy mom. The notion that my family is lacking simply because we don’t have a girl is not something I subscribe to.