In a controversial statement that has sparked outrage, an elementary school principal in Oregon has suggested that children who are bullied should simply adjust their behavior to avoid harassment. Principal Mark Thompson of Maplewood Elementary School has proposed a rather alarming theory: bullied children need to be less irritating.
In a video shared on social media, Thompson expressed his belief that the responsibility for bullying lies not with the aggressors, but with the victims. “From what I’ve seen, students who are frequently bullied often struggle with making friends. They might not be aware of it, but they tend to annoy their peers,” he stated during an episode of his series, “Parental Guidance on Bullying.” He added, “Those who bully feel justified in their actions, thinking, ‘I’m going to teach them a lesson.’”
This perspective raises serious concerns, as it implies that children experiencing bullying are somehow deserving of their treatment. It shifts the focus away from the bullies, who actively choose to intimidate others, and places the onus on the victims to change. The idea that children should simply become better friends to avoid being bullied is not only misguided but deeply troubling.
Furthermore, Thompson directed advice at the parents of those who bully, suggesting that they should also take responsibility for their children’s behavior. “If your child is being targeted, consider what they might be doing to alienate themselves. Perhaps they’re not annoying others intentionally, but they may be doing something that makes them a target,” he remarked.
Parents in the community have voiced their disapproval, labeling Thompson’s remarks as “victim shaming.” It’s crucial to recognize that children who face bullying are not responsible for the actions of their harassers. It’s the bullies who must be held accountable for their choices, not the victims who suffer as a result.
Imagine telling a child who has been bullied that the solution lies in their ability to be a more likable friend. Such a message can be damaging, reinforcing feelings of inadequacy. “This sends the wrong message, implying that they are the problem,” commented Sarah Mitchell, a parent of a student at Maplewood.
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In summary, the statements made by Principal Thompson reflect a troubling trend of victim-blaming in bullying situations. It is essential to advocate for accountability among bullies while providing support and understanding for those who experience bullying.