When I first became a mother to my then-infant daughter, I remember an older mom sharing a poignant thought: “You only have eighteen summers with your children before they’re off on their own.” She snapped her fingers dramatically, emphasizing how fleeting these years are. I nodded along, trying to be understanding, but at the time, I was more captivated by the back-to-school supplies at Target than the concept of time slipping away.
Fast forward a decade or so, and here I am, a mother of four, realizing that those eighteen summers may not even be complete. The reality is that as kids grow, their summers fill up with jobs, camps, and internships, leaving us parents struggling to keep up with their busy schedules. As my eldest approaches her thirteenth birthday this month, the weight of this truth feels particularly heavy.
Thirteen—a teenager. It’s an official milestone, and it signifies a shift in our relationship. I find myself clinging to the idea that I have five more summers with her. But five summers is a mere blink in the grand scheme of things. I know these upcoming summers won’t be filled with carefree pool parties or endless days at the beach. Instead, they will likely be dominated by her desire for independence and time spent with friends.
This year, I’ve noticed significant changes in her—she’s embracing her autonomy, seeking out her interests, and even enjoying long nights of sleep. While I’ve nurtured this growth, I can’t help but feel nostalgic for the days when she reveled in trips to the waterpark or building forts with her siblings in our pajamas. I want her to continue seeing the joy in crafts and projects, but I also understand that parenting isn’t about my desires alone.
As summer fades and the new school year approaches, I feel a sense of reluctance. It’s hard for me to say goodbye to this chapter of her childhood, one that I’ve cherished deeply.
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In summary, while the years may seem abundant in the beginning, they slip away faster than we anticipate. It’s essential to cherish every moment while also preparing for the changes that come with growing up.