You know that feeling when you’re really thirsty and a glass of water tastes like pure bliss? Or when you’ve been avoiding sweets for a while and then you finally indulge in your grandmother’s apple pie, and it’s not just a taste — it’s a whole experience.
We often hear the adage, “Good things come to those who wait.” While I think there are times that’s just not true, there’s definitely something to be said for delaying gratification until you’re almost bursting, then finally giving in. Just like how the satisfaction of achieving something hard-fought feels incredibly rewarding.
I often share this with my daughter, who loves to spend her earnings from her dishwashing job on clothes but is also trying to save for a car. Like many teenagers, she wishes the wheels would just appear without the hard work. I remind her that the wait and effort will lead to a much deeper appreciation than if I simply surprised her with a shiny new vehicle.
But have you ever considered that this concept applies to your intimate life as well? It totally does! Practicing the art of edging — reaching the brink of orgasm and then pausing — can lead to more intense and fulfilling orgasms.
I understand this might not sound appealing if you’re a busy parent with just 20 minutes of quiet time while the kids are entertained. After a long day, many of us just want to reach climax and then sleep, but if you find the chance, it’s definitely worth exploring.
Getting Started with Edging
So, how do you engage in this edging practice, and what benefits might it bring? I reached out to Alex Morgan, a Certified Sex Educator and Relationship Specialist at Sexual Insights, who offered some insightful tips on how to begin.
First, you need to shift your mindset about masturbation. Make edging your primary focus rather than just seeking climax. “Masturbation shouldn’t just be about relieving boredom or sexual tension,” says Morgan.
Another key point is to avoid porn or any stimulating images while practicing edging. According to Morgan, this helps you concentrate on your own sensations, which is the essence of the practice. External stimuli can divert your attention away from your own experience. Edging helps you become attuned to different levels of arousal, so it’s beneficial to start by exploring your body solo before introducing a partner.
To get started, create a relaxing environment: dim the lights, lock the door, light some candles, and play soft music—whatever helps you unwind and focus on yourself. Morgan suggests closing your eyes and thinking about something or someone that excites you. Then, “Touch yourself until you notice your arousal building,” Morgan advises.
Pay attention to the changes in your body as excitement builds: your heart rate quickens, your muscles tighten, your skin warms, and blood flows to your genital area. “This is the excitement phase of arousal,” says Morgan.
Stay present and aim to hover around 80% arousal before pulling back down to 50%. Stop stimulation right as you feel yourself nearing the peak. “Remove your hands from your body and keep the pace slow,” Morgan explains.
After a few sessions of this, when you finally allow yourself to orgasm, notice if the experience is more intense or prolonged. Morgan recommends keeping your sessions brief, around 15-20 minutes, so it doesn’t feel like a chore.
Edging with a Partner
If you want to try edging with a partner, communication is key. “When you’re about to climax, let your partner know to ease off and focus on gentler touches elsewhere, like your thighs or breasts. Repeat the process until you feel ready to climax,” Morgan suggests.
There are many benefits to this practice, according to Morgan. “Edging heightens your awareness of your body and enhances your confidence in knowing what brings you pleasure.” It can also help individuals discover more about their bodies and pleasure zones when practiced solo.
In addition to achieving orgasms, edging can lead to more powerful and longer-lasting ones. Personally, I wouldn’t mind sneaking away for some “me time” a few times a week if it means more intense orgasms for me. It’s definitely a worthwhile effort to enhance my intimate experiences.
Further Reading
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Conclusion
In summary, edging can significantly enhance your sexual experiences by making orgasms more intense and enjoyable. By focusing on the journey rather than just the finish line, you can discover new depths of pleasure and satisfaction.