Once upon a time, navigating friendships seemed a breeze. Sure, there were squabbles and occasional drama—because let’s face it, all relationships can be tricky—but overall, friendships felt as effortless as strolling home from school, sharing a desk in math class, or living just a few steps away in the dorms.
I often reminisce about those simpler days. I miss how easy it was to connect, whether it was just a quick walk down the hall or a spontaneous call saying, “I’ve got snacks, and I’m on my way.” I long for the times when we could spend hours laughing, crying, or simply chatting about nothing, with nowhere to rush off to. Even when we had plans, those moments of connection were always more important.
I miss sharing comfortable silences after we’d exhausted all our stories and knew each other inside out. I miss the way we could finish each other’s thoughts and knew everything from each other’s favorite pizza toppings to the latest gossip. I fondly remember our standing dates to binge-watch shows like Friends and how we could rely on one another to meet at our favorite café every Friday evening.
Nowadays, maintaining friendships feels more challenging. Instead of simply knocking on a door with a bowl of popcorn, we often find ourselves driving for hours or even hopping on a plane to connect. With family duties and work commitments consuming our time, we’re left with little more than fleeting moments in our busy days. By the time we finally get to chat, it feels like there’s so much to catch up on that we hardly know where to begin.
Friendship has evolved. We often find ourselves spending more time with acquaintances or casual friends—neighbors and parents of our children’s friends. These are the easy connections. We bond over shared experiences at long soccer games or discuss homework woes while sipping coffee at playdates. These relationships are vital, and I appreciate them as they sometimes blossom into deeper friendships. Yet, they lack the depth of a heart-to-heart with my true confidant. Three hours with a group isn’t the same as a quick catch-up with my best friend.
As I age, perhaps due to the heightened awareness of time slipping away, or simply a lowered tolerance for superficiality, I find myself yearning for authenticity in friendship. I crave bonds built on trust and loyalty, where I know I can show up on your doorstep, tears streaming down my face, ready for a judgment-free venting session. I want to be able to text you at an ungodly hour because I can’t sleep and need to recall the name of the actor from a movie we loved. I desire friends who are genuine with me, even when it leads to disagreements that ultimately don’t matter because we understand each other’s hearts.
What I truly seek are a handful of solid, genuine friendships rather than a multitude of casual acquaintances. I want to know that distance—whether it’s a short drive or a thousand miles—won’t change our connection. I want friends who are there not just during the good times but also when life gets tough. Especially when it gets tough.
Because true friendship transcends ease; it’s rooted in unwavering loyalty and the freedom to be completely authentic with one another. True friends—our original besties—know our histories, which helps them understand our present and remain part of our future.
So here’s to our true friends—the ones who endure the trials of time and distance. The ones who stand by us through life’s ups and downs, ensuring that even when the going gets tough, life feels a little lighter.
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In summary, true friendship is about loyalty, authenticity, and being there for one another, regardless of the challenges we face together.