I was just over 12 when my first period arrived during band practice (I played the flute), and of course, I had chosen to wear white pants that day. Later, my mom handed me a box of tampons and instructed me to “read the instructions.” There was no heartfelt conversation about womanhood, and no dramatic fanfare. But this mundane moment marked the beginning of my intricate relationship with my vagina.
Now, as I embrace my 30s, I realize that many of my body image concerns have faded away, and I can confidently say that my vagina is my ally. Here are some of the crucial lessons I’ve learned along the way:
Understanding Birth Control Options
Not every contraceptive method is suitable for everyone. Whether due to unpleasant side effects or personal preference, traditional birth control hasn’t always worked for me. I discovered that natural methods like the rhythm method align better with my lifestyle and can be quite effective. Sure, I had to track my cycle for a while—hello, period journal!—and avoid certain foods like soy, which can disrupt hormonal balance. But the rewards of understanding my body far outweigh any minor inconveniences. Plus, knowing my body is free from chemical interference is a definite bonus.
The Reality of Childbirth
When I was three months pregnant, I asked my mom what natural childbirth was like. With a casual wave of her hand, she said, “Eh, it’s not that bad. You’ll be fine.” Those words echoed in my mind throughout the next seven months and my six hours of labor. While childbirth is undeniably significant, the dramatized image of women in films—screaming and panicking—doesn’t accurately represent reality. Women are naturally equipped to give birth. Your experience is uniquely yours, and our bodies are astonishingly resilient.
Nourishing My Vagina
About a decade ago, I switched to a mostly plant-based diet, leaving behind my college-era “I can eat anything” mentality. This shift brought numerous benefits: increased energy, clearer skin, faster hair and nail growth, and even effortless weight loss. But perhaps the most delightful surprise? A happier vagina. No matter your diet, certain foods like pineapple, almonds, and avocados can keep your vagina healthy and even help prevent infections. If you struggle with bacterial vaginosis, consider coconut oil, a natural antibacterial that helps maintain a healthy balance of bacteria. So, next time you’re at the grocery store, don’t forget to pick up some goodies for your favorite downstairs neighbor.
The Health Benefits of Sex
You know that old saying about love and sex going hand in hand? I eventually realized that was a myth, and my life improved significantly. This revelation was particularly empowering during my single years. Although I was emotionally fulfilled, I was neglecting my sexual needs. Research shows that maintaining an active sex life can elevate mood and reduce stress, plus it can burn up to 250 calories. I firmly believe that if more people prioritized pleasure, the world would be a happier place. While regular sex can be easier in a committed relationship, being single shouldn’t mean sacrificing your sexual health. If anyone questions your dating apps, just tell them you’re on a mission to do God’s work—one orgasm at a time.
The Evolution of Sexuality
Contrary to what I once believed, sex becomes more intriguing in your 30s. According to my mother, the experience only gets better in your 40s and 50s. While my 20s offered more free time, my confidence and self-awareness have soared. I’ve never felt more liberated and uninhibited. Studies indicate that women aged 27 to 45 engage in sex more frequently than those aged 18 to 26. Interestingly, it’s typically men who experience a decline in sex drive during this period, which is quite amusing given the stereotype of college party boys.
The most significant lesson I’ve learned in my 30s is that my vagina is, regardless of external opinions, mine. Women today are reclaiming control over our bodies—whether we were born with them or have made the choice to acquire them. It’s essential to explore your options and seek out information and support from experts like those at Intracervical Insemination or check out Women’s Health for excellent resources on pregnancy and home insemination. Remember, the magic resides within us, and our strength is often underestimated.
All hail the vagina, the true ruler of our lives.