Once you embark on the journey of marriage (or a committed partnership) and introduce children into the equation, life inevitably morphs. Sure, you reassure yourself that nothing will change. You might even vow to keep the spark alive and schedule regular date nights, no matter the chaos.
You convince yourself that you won’t turn into “those” couples—the ones who can’t complete a thought without interruptions like “Mom, he keeps touching me!” or “Daaaad, my toy is stuck in the toilet!”
You promise to engage in conversations beyond the realms of children and finances, aiming for deep discussions about your “dreams” and “aspirations.” Yet, before long, you find that your dialogues consist mainly of grunts, sighs, and questions that would have made your younger selves cringe when you were blissfully unaware of the rollercoaster called modern parenting.
And just like that, you become one of “those” couples. Don’t panic; it’s a common phase, and it’s okay. This is what we call the Question Stage of marriage, and it’s bound to pass—eventually. I’m still waiting, too.
Are You in the Question Stage?
If you’re curious whether you’re in this phase, take a look at this list and see how many of these questions have come up recently:
- How many diapers did you change today?
Answer: Too many. - Isn’t it your turn to clear the sink?
Which is really just another way of saying, Honey, please clear the sink right now. - What is that smell?
Pro tip: Avoid answering this. Just take care of it quietly, and everyone will be better off. - Do we have any chicken nuggets? Fish sticks? Cereal? Anything?
Another pro tip: Skip the conversation and call for pizza—trust me. - Is that pet vomit or child vomit?
You’ll find yourself hoping it’s the pet’s! - How many times did you wake up last night?
If either of you is asking this, you’ve likely lost count of the disruptions from a crying baby or a restless toddler, and you’re both searching for a shift in responsibility so you can catch some sleep. - Did you feed the pets?
Just say yes, then actually feed them. - When did the kids last take a bath? When did I last take a bath?
In other words, it’s time to draw that bath, my friend. - Want to turn on a show and have a quick moment for ourselves?
Right after the kids are bathed. - When can we have a full conversation again?
In about 18 years, probably.
If you identify with the Question Stage in your relationship, don’t worry. You’re not alone. Most of us have been there, or are still navigating it. Now, if you’ll excuse me, my husband seems to have another question for me.
Further Reading
For more insights into family planning and parenting, you can explore our other posts, including one about the at-home insemination kit. Additionally, check out this resource for valuable information on pregnancy and home insemination. For expert advice on monitoring fetal health, visit this site.
In summary, the journey of parenthood can lead to a host of questions that redefine communication in marriage. Embrace the chaos and remember—it’s all part of the adventure.