When I began my breastfeeding journey, I never anticipated nursing my child beyond the infant stage. However, my eldest son continued nursing until he was in Pre-K, and my younger son, now almost three, shows no signs of stopping anytime soon.
In the early days, I faced numerous challenges with latching and was simply relieved when I could feed my newborn without too much fuss. As time passed, though, continuing to breastfeed felt perfectly natural. By the time my first son turned three, nursing became a private ritual, much like how some children find comfort in a favorite blanket or thumb-sucking.
I’m not here to persuade anyone on the merits of long-term breastfeeding; that’s a personal decision for each mother and child. Yet, I’ve noticed a lot of misconceptions circulating about nursing older children, especially in a culture that often views breastfeeding through a narrow lens. In many parts of the world, breastfeeding toddlers is considered normal, not taboo.
Here are some common myths I’d like to address:
- “Doesn’t breast milk lose its nutritional value as time goes on?”
Absolutely not! Breast milk retains its nutritional benefits throughout the entire nursing period. Although the quantity may decrease as the child grows, the immunities and nutrients remain intact. - “Can’t you just pump and serve it in a cup?”
For many toddlers, nursing is about comfort as much as nutrition. Breastfeeding provides emotional security. While some prefer substitute soothing methods, others find that nursing fulfills that need uniquely. - “What about when they get teeth?”
Teething doesn’t hinder nursing. Proper latching means teeth don’t play a role in the process. If biting occurs, it’s usually a temporary phase, and there are effective strategies to manage it without weaning. - “What if they can ask for it?”
Nursing babies have been asking for it since birth, using nonverbal cues. As they grow, they may vocalize their needs, much like asking for a snack or a toy. - “Aren’t you worried about raising a child who can’t self-soothe?”
Seeking comfort is part of childhood. Whether it’s nursing or cuddling, children often need reassurance. Over time, they naturally develop self-soothing strategies without any pressure. - “Isn’t it more for the mom than the child after a certain age?”
Nursing isn’t a chore; it’s a mutually enjoyable experience. While mothers appreciate the closeness, children nurse because they want to. No one can force a child to breastfeed. - “Only children in developing countries need the nutrition.”
While food access is generally sufficient in developed nations, breast milk offers more than just nutrition; it’s also about the bonding experience and emotional connection. - “But your child will remember it!”
Yes, some children do remember breastfeeding, often associating it with warmth rather than anything else. They view breasts as sources of comfort, not as sexual objects. - “That sounds a bit like sexual abuse.”
This is a deeply troubling misconception. Breastfeeding is a natural, nurturing act, not a sexual one. It’s important to separate the two and understand the context. - “Aren’t you afraid your child will never stop?”
I once worried about this too, but weaning happens naturally, just like other milestones. Kids eventually transition away from nursing, often preferring other forms of connection, whether it’s conversation or reading together.
There are many families nursing longer than you might think. While it may not always be visible, countless mothers are fulfilling their nursing journeys in private. It’s crucial to be open-minded and recognize that long-term breastfeeding is both natural and more common than many realize.
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In conclusion, the dialogue surrounding breastfeeding older children is often fraught with misunderstandings. It’s important to approach the topic with knowledge and empathy, recognizing that every family’s journey is unique.