I recently learned that I have generalized anxiety disorder and obsessive-compulsive disorder. While it wasn’t shocking, as I’ve experienced these feelings throughout my life, becoming a parent has ignited a stronger urge in me to address my mental health instead of sidelining it.
It’s become evident that one of my children is showing signs of anxiety. When I first noticed it a couple of years ago, my heart sank. No parent wants their child to face challenges they’ve struggled with themselves.
During a recent conversation with my pediatrician about my worries, I opened up about my own mental health journey. He listened attentively and then reassured me by highlighting the strengths my child could develop and the achievements that awaited him. His optimism was refreshing and lifted a weight off my chest.
As parents, we often want to shield our kids from the pain we’ve experienced, but upon reflection, I realized that my own battles have made me resilient. I’ve learned how to confront my anxiety head-on, transforming it from a crippling force into a source of strength.
I began to view what I once saw as a weakness in my child as a potential for significant growth. Unlike my childhood, he has my support and understanding. What better ally can a child grappling with anxiety have than a parent who truly gets it?
Here’s my message to my child and any other kids facing anxiety:
- It’s okay to feel what you feel. Yes, anxiety can be tough, and some days will be more challenging than others. But remember, every time you face it, you grow a little stronger.
- Don’t allow anyone to label you as weak. You are not. Everyone has their own struggles; while things may come easily to others, that doesn’t diminish your value. You are a warrior in your own right.
- Embrace your fears. It’s perfectly fine to feel scared or anxious. Acknowledge those emotions but also remind yourself that it’s okay to fight against them. You can experience fear and still overcome it.
- Understand that it’s okay to have different abilities. We all have unique strengths. If crowds make you anxious or speaking in front of people terrifies you, that’s okay. Focus on discovering your own talents rather than comparing yourself to others.
- Love your mind, even when it feels different. It can be challenging to accept that your brain works in its own unique way. But the more you embrace your individuality, the more you’ll learn to manage your thoughts. Appreciate yourself and your mind just as they are.
- Talk to someone you trust. There are people around you who will love and accept you for who you are. Being open about your struggles can lead to finding support and guidance. Don’t bottle it all up; reach out for help.
- Remember to take life one step at a time. Focusing on today, rather than worrying about tomorrow or the distant future, can make everything feel more manageable.
- Practice self-forgiveness. It’s okay to feel overwhelmed and to express those feelings. Just promise yourself that you will work through it and forgive yourself when things don’t go as planned. We can overcome these challenges together.
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In summary, while anxiety can feel like a burden, it can also be a source of strength. Embrace your journey, seek support, and remember that you’re not alone in this fight.