I find myself contemplating how to start this message, realizing I wish we could share this moment in person. I envision you sitting beside me, sipping tea, and allowing me to express these thoughts directly to you, perhaps holding your hand and offering a comforting hug.
As someone who typically doesn’t embrace physical affection, my willingness to do so speaks volumes about how much you matter to me and to all of us.
Though we may not share the same space, I will do my best to convey what I wish I could say face-to-face. You and I have a bond that goes beyond words; we’ve both experienced something profound and often indescribable.
We both know what it means to have undergone an abortion. While we may share this experience, our individual stories are uniquely our own. I’m here not to pry or judge, but simply to extend love and understanding. You are seen, and your feelings about your choice are entirely valid, regardless of when that decision was made.
Embracing Your Story
Let’s start with this fundamental truth: you are a good person. Abortion doesn’t define your worth. You are filled with light and goodness. I remember a pivotal moment when a dear friend told me, “Every part of your story is welcome here; none of it is ugly.” That phrase transformed my understanding of love and acceptance. I want you to feel the same way about your story. Every aspect of who you are is embraced here—your journey is not broken or shameful.
For Those Who Feel Relief
To those who feel relief after their abortion, I see you. Your relief is not something to apologize for; it is entirely acceptable. Allow yourself to experience that weight lifted off your shoulders and remember your reasons. You deserve joy and the life you envisioned for yourself.
For Those Who Carry Grief
To those who carry grief, I see you too. I’m truly sorry for the solitude that often accompanies this heavy burden. Society may tell you that your feelings are invalid, but you are strong for carrying this alone. You have every right to grieve this loss as deeply as you feel it. Your emotions are yours to own, and you don’t have to justify them to anyone.
For Those Who Feel Regret
If regret is part of your experience, know that I empathize with you. The advice to “have no regrets” can feel dismissive. I won’t tell you to move on; your regret is a part of you that’s welcome here. But I do urge you to forgive yourself. Remember that you did what you thought was best at that moment. Embrace both the person you were then and who you are now.
For Those Who Feel Shame
And if shame is weighing you down, dear friend, I feel for you. Shame is not a reflection of your character; it thrives in secrecy and judgment. The renowned Brene Brown emphasizes that sharing our stories with empathy can dismantle shame. How often have you kept your story hidden due to fear of judgment? I apologize for the times you felt your shame grow in silence. Let’s bring your story into the light together, where it can be met with love and understanding.
You’re Not Alone
Whether your decision was simple or fraught with difficulty, it’s okay to feel a mix of emotions. You don’t have to face them alone. Let’s give voice to your feelings, whether through writing, sharing, or quietly reflecting. If you need a safe space to express yourself, I genuinely want to provide that for you.
I’m not merely extending words of affection; I mean it wholeheartedly. What do you need? How can I support you? Friends create safe spaces, and I want ours to be one where we can share, cry, laugh, and navigate the complexities of life together.
You and your abortion are both welcomed and cherished here. Every part of your story belongs at this table. Please join me.
Additional Resources
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You are not alone; we can navigate this journey together.
Summary
The message conveys a heartfelt connection and support for individuals who have experienced abortion, emphasizing the importance of feeling valid in their emotions, whether relief, grief, regret, or shame. It invites readers to embrace their stories and offers a safe space for sharing and healing.