I notice you across the restaurant, perhaps enjoying a meal with your partner or just spending time with your little one, much like I often do. You’re engaged in a heartfelt conversation, discussing matters beyond the realms of Minecraft or Mario Kart, or maybe you’re simply sitting in silence, lost in your thoughts while your child is absorbed in their own digital universe.
Let me clarify: I’m not here to judge you. I am you.
I see you not because I feel superior, but because I understand. It’s challenging to carve out time to connect with another adult amidst the chaos of parenting. And when those moments arise, they feel rejuvenating—like giving water to a parched sponge. That connection, that exchange of laughter and stories, is essential for our well-being.
As parents, we often find ourselves trapped in a daily grind—waking up early, heading to work, returning home drained, and fulfilling our children’s endless requests. We give baths, prepare meals (a term I use loosely), and listen to endless tales about characters like Enderman (whom I still don’t quite grasp but hear about constantly). We tuck our kids into bed, loving them fiercely, and then we crash.
After a long day, we may resort to scrolling through social media, watching TV, or reading, allowing another day to slip by without meaningful connections with the adults we cherish or even with ourselves. It’s crucial for our well-being to engage both outwardly with others and inwardly with our own thoughts and feelings.
So, when those precious moments to connect with friends, family, or partners come along, don’t hesitate to give your child a tablet or handheld game to keep them occupied. While we should limit screen time and teach our kids essential manners—like making eye contact when speaking and putting devices away during meals—there’s no need for guilt when you claim some much-needed time for yourself.
The previous generation may not understand; they might cast judgment or express frustration over our reliance on technology. However, being a dedicated parent means recognizing when to prioritize your own needs. When you hand over that iPad, remember: you are indeed “Parent of the Year.” Your child is enjoying a meal out, and that’s a significant achievement. Later, you can engage in activities like playing board games or going for bike rides. But for now? You absolutely deserve this moment.
Let’s stop feeling guilty about our parenting choices. Being an outstanding parent includes nurturing ourselves too.
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In summary, parenting is a challenging yet fulfilling journey. Embrace the moments of connection, both with others and yourself, without guilt. You are doing an incredible job!