In the realm of parenting, the firstborn often takes on the title of the “golden child.” This well-mannered, serene little one can make you feel like a parenting pro, especially when surrounded by the cacophony of other kids at the playground. But one mother is here to shed light on the reality of parenting and why that first child might just be a clever ruse to encourage you to have more kids.
Jessica Thompson, a mother of three—including that seemingly flawless firstborn—recently posted a humorous video on her social media, aptly named #TakeThatTina. In this engaging clip, she calls out the self-satisfied parents who assume that because they’ve managed to raise one well-behaved child, others must be falling short in their parenting duties.
“I used to think I was quite the excellent parent,” Thompson begins, recalling the days when her first child, a daughter, was just a toddler. “Everyone would rave about how good she was—so polite, sweet, and well-behaved. I thought, ‘Wow, I must be doing something right since I have this golden child.’”
As the mother of my own “golden child,” I completely relate to this sentiment. I often hold back from sharing my pride on social media, aware that my husband and I are just lucky.
However, Jessica’s perspective shifted drastically when she welcomed her second child. “Then I had another one,” she continues, pausing to let the sound of her second child’s tantrum reverberate through the video. “I quickly learned this isn’t a reflection of my parenting. I’m using the same techniques, but one is a delight while the other is having a meltdown in the next room.”
This video resonated with many parents, particularly those who fear the chaos that comes with having more than one child. Jessica humorously describes how her experiences with her second child differ from the praise she received for her first. “When I post about my son, I often face criticism about how I discipline him,” she quips, mimicking a judgmental friend’s voice. “Oh, thank you, Tina—I hadn’t considered that discipline might be necessary!”
While I may have a calm first child, I can assure you I’m not a Tina—those types can be quite unbearable. Each child, even those from the same family, comes with their own unique personality.
For those struggling with a challenging child, Jessica advises, “Be kind to yourself. Remember, it’s not about you; it’s about the child.” She humorously refers to her second child as her “sour patch kid” and acknowledges that the firstborn is often a clever ploy to encourage further reproduction.
“If you’re dealing with a spirited child, just know you can tell all the Tinas to take a hike and invite them over to see how they fare with your kids,” she adds with a laugh. “They just don’t understand!”
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In summary, parenting is a complex and often unpredictable journey. The golden child may just be a trick of nature, and as we embrace each child’s individuality, let’s remember to support one another during the chaotic moments.