In the journey of life, especially when navigating relationships, the importance of humor cannot be overstated. It’s not about marrying the most handsome or wealthiest person; rather, it’s about finding a partner who can make you laugh. I didn’t choose the conventionally attractive man. My husband, at the time of our marriage, bore a striking resemblance to a well-known comedian, receiving requests for autographs during our trip to Vegas.
We didn’t marry for financial security either. Sure, he had some savings, but we weren’t looking to retire in luxury with all the trappings. And while he can be kind, his wit often leans toward the sarcastic side. He enjoys a good read from satirical publications, and his sharp humor is well-practiced. Yet, it is his ability to make me laugh that truly won my heart.
Over the years, I’ve watched him evolve. His beard may have grayed, but his charm remains. We’ve experienced more financial struggles than triumphs, and his once-biting humor has softened. Still, he remains the funniest person I know. My mother always advised me to marry someone with a good sense of humor, and I can confidently say she was spot on.
My husband has recurring jokes that have stood the test of time. Recently, we joked about our beloved dog, who, after a brain injury, seems to take orders from a peculiar tree stump in our yard. “She’s talking to the stump again,” he’ll quip, and I can’t help but laugh, knowing he’s referring to our dog’s antics. This shared humor is a fundamental aspect of our bond.
It’s not just the inside jokes that brighten my day. He actively seeks to make me laugh. Amidst the chaos of parenting, with children screaming and toys scattered everywhere, he sends me unexpected texts. “Hope you’re not stuck on the interstate,” he once wrote, knowing full well I wasn’t. “There’s a blockage due to a tractor-trailer overturning, spilling, as quoted, ‘fluid chicken parts.’” His humor allows me to momentarily escape the daily grind and embrace a lighter, happier version of myself.
His comedic flair often transforms mundane situations into sources of joy. For instance, when someone reported a rattlesnake incident, we spent several minutes humorously dissecting the absurdity of the situation. These shared laughs not only brighten our days but also strengthen our connection.
Self-deprecating humor is another quality I admire. Recently, he had a mishap at school involving an exploding can of soup, which required an emergency shopping trip for new clothes. He shared the experience with me in a way that had me in stitches.
Moreover, he doesn’t shy away from poking fun at my own misadventures. When our dog devoured my prized bean plants, I was furious. He couldn’t contain his laughter, reminding me of my melodramatic response: “My beans were so beautiful.” While I may have momentarily dismissed him, I couldn’t help but see the humor in my exaggerated frustration.
This playful teasing extends to our children, too, albeit not in their presence. It serves as a necessary stress reliever and offers a humorous perspective on parenting.
My mother was indeed right: marry someone who makes you laugh. Beauty fades, wealth can dwindle, and children grow up, but the gift of humor is timeless. Occasionally, we reminisce about past events, and a simple remark about a challenging hike can elicit a shared laugh, creating our own inside joke.
While humor alone cannot resolve all issues, it certainly smooths over many bumps in the road. Love is the foundation of our marriage, but laughter is the glue that holds us together.
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In summary, choosing a partner who can consistently bring laughter into your life is invaluable. Amidst the challenges of life, it is humor that fosters connection and resilience in a relationship.