As Father’s Day draws near, this year marks a new chapter for me and my family. Following my recent separation from my husband, some of our cherished family rituals have shifted. The cozy Friday night pizzas in front of the TV and our leisurely Sundays have given way to dining out, coordinating schedules, and balancing the kids’ needs as we navigate this transition.
However, there are certain traditions we refuse to let go of, like our Saturday outings to our favorite burger spot. I inevitably overindulge and complain about it while my ex, Jake, shakes his head and questions my choices. Yet, when I suggest ice cream afterward, he never fails to join me, despite my earlier whining about my overstuffed belly. He knows how adamant I can be when ice cream is involved.
We still enjoy family movie nights when there’s a film the kids are eager to see. After a sneaky trip to the dollar store to stash candy and sodas in my purse, Jake pays for the tickets while I make a quick escape to the restroom, feeling like a modern-day Bonnie and Clyde. We have established a comfortable rhythm, and these moments are something we can all rely on.
Honoring a Good Father
One thing that remains unchanged is my commitment to celebrate my children’s father on Father’s Day. This gesture is not merely to reciprocate for the thoughtful Mother’s Day he arranged for me, complete with coveted skincare products and a lovely meal with the kids. It’s about honoring him for who he is.
He is their father—the only one they will ever have. Thankfully, he excels in that role. Just because our marriage didn’t last doesn’t diminish his qualities as a father. He was there for every moment of our children’s lives, from their births to changing diapers and soothing them to sleep. Jake was a constant support, always reminding me that it was okay to take a break when I felt overwhelmed.
While we may not be in love like we once were, and we are certainly not the same carefree young adults who envisioned their future together, we have shared two decades filled with laughter, challenges, and countless memories. We’ve given each other our best and worst, ultimately reaching the conclusion of our journey as a couple.
Yet, I still believe he deserves recognition on Father’s Day—this year and every year to come. I want to celebrate him just as fervently now as I did when we were married.
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Conclusion
In summary, even after a separation, the importance of recognizing a good father remains paramount. Traditions may shift, but the essence of family and appreciation endures. Celebrating him on Father’s Day is not just a gesture; it’s a testament to the enduring bond we share through our children.