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Become a ‘Friend in the Moment’
By Jessica Leighton
Updated: Oct. 14, 2019
Originally Published: Oct. 14, 2019
This morning, after dropping my daughter at preschool, I noticed a fellow mom in the car beside me. She grabbed a napkin and began to cry, the weight of her emotions evident as her shoulders shook. My heart sank. I understood her struggle. As parents, we often feel the burden of sending our little ones out into a world that can be daunting.
I couldn’t tear my eyes away—not out of morbid curiosity, but because I felt an urge to help. I’ve been there, sitting alone in my car, tears streaming down my face. In those moments, the simplest reassurance from another parent could have provided immense comfort.
So, I made the decision to reach out. I stepped out of my vehicle with my baby and tapped on her window, gesturing for her to roll it down.
“Hi! I noticed you seemed upset and wanted to check in,” I said.
She wiped her tears and replied, “Oh my gosh, thank you. I think I’m okay, but it’s just so hard.”
“I totally get it. Last year, when my oldest started TK, I cried every day for weeks. He struggled, and I understand how tough this transition can be. It’s challenging, but it will get better.”
Her face brightened slightly. “That’s so reassuring to hear. I’m really having a tough time and so is my son.”
“It’s completely understandable. You’re doing a great job, and you have a good kid!” I reassured her.
“I really needed this. Thank you! What’s your name?” she asked.
“I’m Jessica. And you?”
“Emily. Thank you, Jessica.”
Our brief exchange lasted less than a minute, but I could see some relief wash over her. I hoped it lightened her day and eased her worries.
What I did wasn’t heroic; it was a simple act of kindness. This encounter serves as a perfect illustration of how we can be a ‘friend in the moment’ to those around us, even if we never meet again. We don’t need to form lifelong friendships from every interaction, but we should step up and be present when others need support.
I understand that approaching a stranger can feel daunting. Not everyone may feel comfortable knocking on a window, and that’s perfectly fine. Emily could have driven away without engaging with me, but I was willing to take that risk. No more passing by mothers in distress for me.
Small gestures can have a powerful impact. Perhaps you could bring a blanket to a homeless individual you pass regularly on your commute, or help a neighbor remember trash day by rolling their bins to the curb. Maybe you could let someone jump ahead in line when you see they’re in a hurry. Even a simple act like knocking on a car window to offer support can make a difference.
Life is busy, and we all have places to be, but we must remember that taking a moment to connect with others can be invaluable. We need to remind ourselves to pause and show kindness because people matter more than tasks and schedules.
It might feel awkward or imperfect, but that’s okay. Just show up and let the universe handle the rest.
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In summary, we all have the capacity to be a ‘friend in the moment.’ A small gesture can uplift someone’s day and provide them with the support they need. Let’s strive to make these connections whenever we can.