I often find myself reading pieces by physicians who express their frustrations. These voices reflect a growing disillusionment—doctors who never anticipated that patient satisfaction metrics would outweigh their medical expertise, or that they would face skepticism from patients relying on platforms like “WebMD.” Many of these doctors feel overwhelmed by the fast-paced demands of modern medicine and long for an escape.
As I resonate with their sentiments, I also recognize the moments that draw us back into the fold of medicine.
Room 7: A Mother’s Fear
Take my patient in Room 7, for instance. She is 10 weeks pregnant and gripping her 2-year-old daughter tightly, her fear of miscarriage palpable. Despite the tests confirming her worst fears, she puts on a brave face for her child, diligently adjusting her daughter’s perfectly buttoned shirt. I sit with her, holding her hand as she fights back tears. When she squeezes my hand tightly, I can feel the weight of her heartbreak.
Room 1: Embracing Final Moments
In Room 1, a 92-year-old woman is dying, her daughter by her side. After a Thanksgiving spent with family, including her 17 great-grandchildren, she has chosen to forgo further treatment. Today, she is ready to embrace her final moments. Her son later asks me to ensure that she passes with dignity. We turn off the monitors, dim the lights, and remove the invasive equipment, allowing her to experience the warmth of her family’s love in her last breaths. Her daughter, overwhelmed with grief, clutches the necklace we had carefully removed. In that moment, I want to fulfill her simple request to put it around her neck, but my fingers fumble. The urgency of the emergency department fades away, and all that matters is this grieving family. A month later, I receive a holiday card from the son, adorned with evergreens and a cardinal, thanking me for honoring his mother’s dignity. This card remains a cherished reminder of the impact we can have.
Room 11: The Struggles of New Parenthood
Then there’s Room 11, where new parents bring in their 3-month-old son, who won’t stop crying. Exhausted and desperate, they’ve seen their pediatrician numerous times without resolution. As we confer quietly to avoid waking their semi-asleep baby, I share my own experience of sleepless nights with my son, who was also a relentless crier. We laugh together, exchanging stories of sleep deprivation and the absurdity of parenting. While I can’t solve their son’s crying, we leave them with a sense of camaraderie, lightening their burden, if only for a moment.
The truth is, I entered medicine with the goal of learning about illnesses to help people during their most trying times. Over time, I’ve realized that medicine is about compassionate care. Yet, it also involves navigating conflict and stress. Striking a balance between work and home life is crucial for my well-being, allowing me to return home as a mother, daughter, and wife.
Despite the moments that weigh heavily on my heart, they are the ones that sustain me. I often find myself replaying these encounters in quiet moments—years later, they continue to inspire me. I acknowledge the feelings of wanting to step back from this demanding profession, but then I receive a hand squeeze, a heartfelt card, or a thankful smile from a parent in distress, and it feels like a reset. Those moments remind me why I persevere.
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In summary, the journey of navigating life as a physician and a mother is filled with challenges and poignant moments that remind us of the importance of compassion in our work.